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If your spouse has the same amount of assets, and in foreseable future will continue earning about the same as you - maybe not. If the spouse has less or more

If your spouse has the same amount of assets, and in foreseable future will continue earning about the same as you - maybe not. If the spouse has less or more seems like a no brainer, why would you want to give her money she hasn't earned or take money you haven't earned in case of a divorce? So in 99% of cases - hell yeah.

labster 10y ago
Because love is more important than money?
- googletazer 10y ago
  Where does "love" and "I need the courts to give me the fruits of your labor connect"?
sokoloff 10y ago
My wife and I came into the relationship with wildly different assets and incomes (both never-married, no prior kids, late 30s). I wouldn't have considered a pre-nup for the simple reason that I'm wagering we'll be together for the duration and if not, I'm willing to share our familial resources amongst the 4 of us. We're together 10+ years now, two kids in elementary school, wife left a nearly 6-figure science job to stay home and raise the kids. Everyone seems happy with that arrangement. What I brought into the relationship 10-11 years ago has less bearing on our current financial standing than the support and promotions I've earned since and the investments we've made, most of which are made on paper with "my" money and "my" direction, but are nevertheless "ours" in every sense that matters to me/us. I've seen relationships that my friends have entered though, where my first thought was, "Boy, I hope they have a pre-nup..."
- googletazer 10y ago
  You and your wife fell on the side of the bell curve where its two reasonable people who see their assets as joint. I guess both of you have high risk tolerance as well. Vast majority of people I personally know do not see their assets in the same way.
- emodendroket 10y ago
  > wife left a nearly 6-figure science job to stay home and raise the kids. I feel like people railing against family law do not adequately consider these kinds of situations.
anigbrowl 10y ago
Well, you're not forced to take your spouse's money in a divorce if you don't want to. Now if there's kids involved things are more complex as the custodial parent has a fiduciary duty to the kids.

labster 10y ago

Because love is more important than money?

googletazer 10y ago
Where does "love" and "I need the courts to give me the fruits of your labor connect"?

sokoloff 10y ago

My wife and I came into the relationship with wildly different assets and incomes (both never-married, no prior kids, late 30s). I wouldn't have considered a pre-nup for the simple reason that I'm wagering we'll be together for the duration and if not, I'm willing to share our familial resources amongst the 4 of us. We're together 10+ years now, two kids in elementary school, wife left a nearly 6-figure science job to stay home and raise the kids. Everyone seems happy with that arrangement. What I brought into the relationship 10-11 years ago has less bearing on our current financial standing than the support and promotions I've earned since and the investments we've made, most of which are made on paper with "my" money and "my" direction, but are nevertheless "ours" in every sense that matters to me/us. I've seen relationships that my friends have entered though, where my first thought was, "Boy, I hope they have a pre-nup..."

googletazer 10y ago
You and your wife fell on the side of the bell curve where its two reasonable people who see their assets as joint. I guess both of you have high risk tolerance as well. Vast majority of people I personally know do not see their assets in the same way.
emodendroket 10y ago
> wife left a nearly 6-figure science job to stay home and raise the kids. I feel like people railing against family law do not adequately consider these kinds of situations.

anigbrowl 10y ago

Well, you're not forced to take your spouse's money in a divorce if you don't want to. Now if there's kids involved things are more complex as the custodial parent has a fiduciary duty to the kids.