personal self-observation - we want to be happy with ourselves, or at least in content state, feeling our actions are well justified and have good reasons. but

personal self-observation - we want to be happy with ourselves, or at least in content state, feeling our actions are well justified and have good reasons. but some people live truly bad lives, hurting people left and right, doing all kinds of undeserved negative things to others. so there is some background process in sub-consciousness that goes over memories, highlights positive intense parts, and lights up the negative ones. which is crap. I don't want to iron my memories, I want them to be exactly same as they were when experiencing them. I don't need to remember shitty girlfriends as actually nice ones, miserable travels as actually nice ones etc. so I am always trying to counter it consciously - nice memories are OK, but the less positive ones I try to specifically remember the full mix of emotions associated with them. not 100%, but works quite well. since people generally don't change much (at least don't improve), this also helps to set expectations when communicating with some (ie family black sheeps).