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How did you get that impression?
by lolc 10y ago
How did you get that impression?
- chris_wot 10y agoI don't think he's a manipulative arsehole, but it does seem very aggressive and judgemental to use the term arseholes. Normally it's only arseholes who tend to call other people arseholes, after all :-)
- tacos 10y agoGuilty as charged. :)
- chris_wot 10y agoOh, that wasn't aimed at you. :-) When I said "he" I meant the writer of the article! All this talk of arseholes, very confusing.
- nickpsecurity 10y agoImagine having a team that's exclusively composed of assholes executing your leader's vision. Case study showing the difficulties: https://youtu.be/wHNB8IHfHdU?t=39s https://youtu.be/wHNB8IHfHdU?t=39s
- nickpsecurity 10y agoI disagree. People intuitively know or quickly learn when others are socially trying to cause them harm. Classifying anyone doing that as an asshole is putting a word on a reflexive assessment even non-judgmental people do and understand. They might choose to take it a different direction in how they respond. They know person was being an asshole in that moment. From there, we could say someone who consistently performs asshole behavior is straight-up an asshole. Whereas, others just act like them on occasion.
- chris_wot 10y agoFair comment. Lucky for me I guess, because I can be often be an arsehole.
- collyw 10y agoNot always. I try to give people th benefit of the doubt. I think I am a good judge of character (I imagine that most people think the same). There are a number of people who I have initially judged as assholes and I decided they are good people after getting to know them better and likewise there are people who I have liked at first and they turned out to be sneaky and manipulative assholes. (There were far more in the second category funnily enough).
- nickpsecurity 10y agoIt can go that way. Certain behavior, though, is undeniably asshole behavior because harm is the only thing that comes from it. Other behavior, if people clearly don't like it, is also asshole behavior if one unnecessarily continues it. This one can get a grey area when conflicts of people's preferences happen. The asshole variety would be the person who knows something bothers someone, feels no need to do it themselves for their own benefit, and does it anyway for satisfaction of irritating other person. There's usually clues, esp non-verbal, that they're doing it too.
- ljw1001 10y agoPeople actually suck at (a) knowing when they are being an asshole, and (b) not interpreting anything that doesn't benefit them as hostile to them. @see Why Everyone (Else) Is a Hypocrite: Evolution and the Modular Mind, by Kurzban. https://www.amazon.com/Why-Everyone-Else-Hypocrite-Evolution-ebook/dp/B004KZQKDC?ie=UTF8&btkr=1&redirect=true&ref_=dp-kindle-redirect https://www.amazon.com/Why-Everyone-Else-Hypocrite-Evolution...
- nickpsecurity 10y agoRe-read my comment. You're addressing a strawman. I said most can pick up when people are repeatedly causing them harm in social situations. There's grey areas but ask random people you'll get a bunch of common answers.