Speaking very honestly, you strike as a person that doesn't care about work. Or as someone would put it: "I work for a living, I don't live for working" With

Speaking very honestly, you strike as a person that doesn't care about work. Or as someone would put it: "I work for a living, I don't live for working" With this said, an employer will want to see achievements, real pro-activeness and things that stand out as energetic, talented or at least a capable leader. Right now you're displaying none of these treats and the things you mention as 1), 2) and 3) are symptoms of what I've mentioned earlier. Understanding the problem is your first step. Second step is start moving. You need to be more active. Hang around startups, build something with them. Better have a low pay than no pay (assuming you have no job) but choose something you see with chances of growing. If you have too many bills and can't leave day time job, still hang around with startups. This means working on your free time. Yes, seems crazy but you need to work harder to move up higher in your career. That is the best way for you to learn and meet people that will be in a position of offering you a good job. Ditch that recruiter, just go out there and meet the job you want to really do.