I agree with your position here. Sure, etiquette is basically a set of unspoken social rules to keep people from feeling uncomfortable; however, it's far more g

I agree with your position here. Sure, etiquette is basically a set of unspoken social rules to keep people from feeling uncomfortable; however, it's far more gauche of a host to not pay attention to this type of proclivity in their guest (especially a recurring guest). I don't think it's at all objectionable for someone to assert their choices in a clear way the first time. I'm sure plenty of people will say it's not OK to bend over backwards to accommodate your guests. I agree with that sentiment as well! Where we'd digress is equating "not serving alcohol" or "choosing fish over meat" to "bending over backwards". If you're really interested in making someone feel welcome in your home, you can go without booze or steak for one night!