Without responding to the rest of your post, I hope that I may take a moment to spit on anyone who said: > I bet you failed to take care of her properly and th

Without responding to the rest of your post, I hope that I may take a moment to spit on anyone who said: > I bet you failed to take care of her properly and that's why she died. This is an awful, awful, sub-human thing to say, especially for someone who doesn't know anything about the situation. Among the responses that I got when my cat passed away, the one that meant the most to me was from my vet, who said "you must have taken very good care of your cat for him to have lived to the age that he did." This helped an enormous amount with the intense guilt that I felt. As such, and particularly to stand up against the assholes who said otherwise, I hope that I may say that I'm sure you did everything that you could for your cat, and made her life as healthy and happy as possible.