Sometimes this is about having a different learning style. Some people may absorb information better one on one. Tutoring and mentoring can be super helpful. A

Sometimes this is about having a different learning style. Some people may absorb information better one on one. Tutoring and mentoring can be super helpful. Another thing you might consider is that there are class and cultural factors to people's expectations about how you get along in life. Person to person conversation and personal relationships are important resources if you are working class or living in poverty. There is a flip side to culture that disdains just asking, which is that smart people sometimes scramble to find answers independently to any questions because they don't want to reveal their ignorance on a subject. Sometimes just asking is not lazy, it is efficient and results in better collaboration as other people hear the question and realize they don't know, either, and would like to. Or, if no one knows, then you at least know have that information and can work from there.