You need to be careful about the praising for trying bit, especially as they get older: "Treating like an adult: You're fucking up. Here's how to fix it. Now

You need to be careful about the praising for trying bit, especially as they get older: "Treating like an adult: You're fucking up. Here's how to fix it. Now fix it. "Treating like a child: You're trying really hard! Good job! It's not the result that matters, it's just that you try! "(That's actually a functional way to deal with children up to a point. In most cases they can't do a real job. But when they get to the point they can, when they're ready to learn to be adults with adult responsibilities, "it's a good try" should never cut it.)"