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There is a good anecdote here: http://firstround.com/review/radical-candor-the-surprising-secret-to-being-a-good-boss/ http://firstround.com/review/radical-cand

There is a good anecdote here: http://firstround.com/review/radical-candor-the-surprising-secret-to-being-a-good-boss/ http://firstround.com/review/radical-candor-the-surprising-s... I think excessive fillers betrays a lack of confidence in what the person is saying, so reducing will help you be a more persuasive speaker.

lotharbot 11y ago
That's a great article, and the larger advice is relevant in ordinary relationships -- don't be an enabler; care about people, and be willing to tell them when they're doing something that hurts them or you or the team or the family or whatever. "When you say ummm that much it makes you sound stupid" is much better than ignoring the issue and letting your friend keep sounding like they don't know what they're talking about.