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pc86 10y ago
Yes, this guy that operates "The personal blog of Michele in California" and has basically her entire HN profile dedicated to the fact that she's a woman.
- svote1 10y ago
  Gender is irrelevant when it comes to harassment. Men and women both can be harassed. Also, guy is gender neutral, it's 2016.
  - pc86 10y ago
    I don't consider myself a feminist by any stretch, and I'm a pretty conservative person generally (certainly more conservative than most of HN). But Jesus Christ, the definition of "guy" is literally "a man." Let's not start this "I didn't mean the actual definition of the word when I said it" trope. And I didn't say gender had anything to do with harassment. We're discussing the article, which happens to be written by a woman.
    - busterarm 10y ago
      Absolutely incorrect. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/volokh-conspiracy/wp/2015/05/14/the-origin-of-the-word-guy/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/volokh-conspiracy/wp/201...
      - peterwwillis 10y ago
        It's not incorrect. Guy does mean "a man." Gal means "a woman." Those are their uses today. They are as gendered as "man". And just so I can get really pedantic: gender is inferred as a context of speech. If you are calling a cis-woman "guy" or "dude", it is inferred you are speaking colloquially. If you call a transwoman "guy" or "dude", it is inferred [by the subject] that you are mis-gendering them, and is offensive. And more to the point of the context of the (now-deleted) comment: if you say "guy", "he", "him", and "dude" all about the same subject, you are calling the subject a man. You can't argue your way around blatantly misgendering someone multiple times.
        busterarm 10y ago
        That's the thing about language though. It is because you choose it to be so. Other people choose for 'guys' and 'dude' to have a different meaning. Collectively we decide who wins. Nobody is right or wrong in the present because it's a never-ending battle over an idea. Words change over time - always have and always will. You can only be right historically in context. 'Guy', _historically_, does not mean 'man'. What it means now is your interpretation. You should not get so bent out of shape because other people disagree with you. There is an inherent problem with basing gender-politics around the meanings of words. How do you deal with people coming from languages that do not have gendered pronouns that are trying to translate their language into English? Do you beat them over the head for how wrong they are (before you say no, I've seen it countless times)? Also hey, guess what. 'He' has seen use as a gender-neutral pronoun well into the 1960s.
        peterwwillis 10y ago
        So you're saying it doesn't matter what you call someone, because hey, interpretations.
        busterarm 10y ago
        No, intent is what matters, not your feelings about certain words. I can't control whether you get upset or not but I can control whether I intended to offend. Note this is not the same as ignoring someone's expressed choice (when being directly addressed) if they have an issue with certain words.
        peterwwillis 10y ago
        You have lots of control over whether someone gets upset. Don't call someone a racial or sexual slur and don't misgender them, for example. If you know some use of language is or could be problematic, don't use it. If you're not aware what language that may be and accidentally offend someone, obviously you shouldn't be held at fault, but you should then take it upon yourself to learn what the problem was so you don't repeat it. Because I personally know people who see 'guy' as a gender-specific word - and because the dictionary says "guy" means "a man" - I know i'm not going to ever call a woman "guy", because it may offend them. I think this is a pretty simple concept...
  - throw_away1 10y ago
    Very true. When I was at my first job when I was 16, I had a female manager. I didn't think anything of it. Well, she had a thing for tall men (and high school boys). I wanted nothing of it. So when she laid it on thick, I told her I appreciated the attention and compliments, but I want to be single for the time being. She didn't quit. Well, she did it around the district manager. Fired on the spot.
  - kebolio 10y ago
    irrelevant to whether i agree with you or not, stating the current year is not a valid argument for change.
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  - zepto 10y ago
    Yes, men can be harassed by women. That doesn't mean that sexism isn't still a major problem, even in 2016.
vacri 10y ago
Holy fucking jesus, how much more direct does a woman have to get about her gender in an article before she is no longer called a 'guy'?
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pc86 10y ago

Yes, this guy that operates "The personal blog of Michele in California" and has basically her entire HN profile dedicated to the fact that she's a woman.

svote1 10y ago
Gender is irrelevant when it comes to harassment. Men and women both can be harassed. Also, guy is gender neutral, it's 2016.
- pc86 10y ago
  I don't consider myself a feminist by any stretch, and I'm a pretty conservative person generally (certainly more conservative than most of HN). But Jesus Christ, the definition of "guy" is literally "a man." Let's not start this "I didn't mean the actual definition of the word when I said it" trope. And I didn't say gender had anything to do with harassment. We're discussing the article, which happens to be written by a woman.
  - busterarm 10y ago
    Absolutely incorrect. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/volokh-conspiracy/wp/2015/05/14/the-origin-of-the-word-guy/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/volokh-conspiracy/wp/201...
    - peterwwillis 10y ago
      It's not incorrect. Guy does mean "a man." Gal means "a woman." Those are their uses today. They are as gendered as "man". And just so I can get really pedantic: gender is inferred as a context of speech. If you are calling a cis-woman "guy" or "dude", it is inferred you are speaking colloquially. If you call a transwoman "guy" or "dude", it is inferred [by the subject] that you are mis-gendering them, and is offensive. And more to the point of the context of the (now-deleted) comment: if you say "guy", "he", "him", and "dude" all about the same subject, you are calling the subject a man. You can't argue your way around blatantly misgendering someone multiple times.
      - busterarm 10y ago
        That's the thing about language though. It is because you choose it to be so. Other people choose for 'guys' and 'dude' to have a different meaning. Collectively we decide who wins. Nobody is right or wrong in the present because it's a never-ending battle over an idea. Words change over time - always have and always will. You can only be right historically in context. 'Guy', _historically_, does not mean 'man'. What it means now is your interpretation. You should not get so bent out of shape because other people disagree with you. There is an inherent problem with basing gender-politics around the meanings of words. How do you deal with people coming from languages that do not have gendered pronouns that are trying to translate their language into English? Do you beat them over the head for how wrong they are (before you say no, I've seen it countless times)? Also hey, guess what. 'He' has seen use as a gender-neutral pronoun well into the 1960s.
        peterwwillis 10y ago
        So you're saying it doesn't matter what you call someone, because hey, interpretations.
        busterarm 10y ago
        No, intent is what matters, not your feelings about certain words. I can't control whether you get upset or not but I can control whether I intended to offend. Note this is not the same as ignoring someone's expressed choice (when being directly addressed) if they have an issue with certain words.
        peterwwillis 10y ago
        You have lots of control over whether someone gets upset. Don't call someone a racial or sexual slur and don't misgender them, for example. If you know some use of language is or could be problematic, don't use it. If you're not aware what language that may be and accidentally offend someone, obviously you shouldn't be held at fault, but you should then take it upon yourself to learn what the problem was so you don't repeat it. Because I personally know people who see 'guy' as a gender-specific word - and because the dictionary says "guy" means "a man" - I know i'm not going to ever call a woman "guy", because it may offend them. I think this is a pretty simple concept...
- throw_away1 10y ago
  Very true. When I was at my first job when I was 16, I had a female manager. I didn't think anything of it. Well, she had a thing for tall men (and high school boys). I wanted nothing of it. So when she laid it on thick, I told her I appreciated the attention and compliments, but I want to be single for the time being. She didn't quit. Well, she did it around the district manager. Fired on the spot.
- kebolio 10y ago
  irrelevant to whether i agree with you or not, stating the current year is not a valid argument for change.
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- zepto 10y ago
  Yes, men can be harassed by women. That doesn't mean that sexism isn't still a major problem, even in 2016.

vacri 10y ago

Holy fucking jesus, how much more direct does a woman have to get about her gender in an article before she is no longer called a 'guy'?

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