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Interesting, did you first explain your complaints to that colleague (without CC-ing others) and got no result?
by zerr 11y ago
Interesting, did you first explain your complaints to that colleague (without CC-ing others) and got no result?
- Mz 10y agohttps://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11687362 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11687362
- zerr 10y agoNot a native English speaker and maybe I'm missing something between lines - I don't understand your story. So your "I advised him to never speak that way to me again" was about "gushing"? I had too look up the word, but couldn't find offensive example atm. And as I understood you've never asked him to not to "gush" you (whatever that means) before CC-ing others, right?
- Mz 10y agoNo, sorry. I never asked him to not gush at me, nor did I find that offensive. Nor did i need to ask that. The detail that you are missing is that he turned something I said into sexual innuendo, something he had never done before. In other words, he took a non sexual comment by me and replied to it in a sexually suggestive manner. This was not something he had ever done before and I was very clear it was malicious behavior. He did not like the fact that I was replying to him in a more low key manner and he was upping the stakes.
- zerr 10y agoOh, got it, now it completely makes sense to me, thanks. Just minor note regarding the prose - that innuendo is mentioned once in the middle, and kind of "by the way" I think, while you mention a lot of "gushing" before and after that, and it grabs the attention, so I thought that must be something bad.. :) but probably because of my "non-native-speakerness".
- Mz 10y agoYeah, with answering your question, I realized I could stand to make that clearer. I hope to get to that today. So I appreciate you asking. Thanks.