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Single parenting and low-pay college degree choices aren't necessarily short term thinking, nor is obesity or tooth decay. Or debt. I think there is a wide brus

Single parenting and low-pay college degree choices aren't necessarily short term thinking, nor is obesity or tooth decay. Or debt. I think there is a wide brush and a lot of assumptions being made here, many of which can be harmful. For just one example, it's quite common for single parenting to actually just be a result of successfully escaping an abusive relationship.

burfog 10y ago
Sure, "aren't necessarily", but likely to be strongly predictable. None of the things I list are 100% caused by anything, but lots of things in life can predict other things. For a real eye-opener, check what OkCupid's data says about people who like the taste of beer! For example, getting into that relationship in the first place was...? Were you ignoring warning signs and not really thinking about how reliable the other person might be in the long term? (if it isn't directly your fault, you probably chose unwisely, not thinking of the long-term chances) Failure to avoid health consequences is often short-term thinking. Look, we all know what happens if you live on soda and chips. Despite this, some people don't think ahead, or they "think" but fail to resist the urge. There are lots of reasons for debt. It could be a freak accident. Much of the time though, it was short-term thinking. You didn't save for the future, preferring instead to spend when you could.
- SolaceQuantum 10y ago
  Like I said, a lot of assumptions are being made here. Many of these have various common and easily brought up examples of how they're not necessarily an indication of the quality you're trying to sift for. By bringing a list of these not-really-indicating qualities there is going to be such a significant category of false positives that it may just look as if one is so eager to judge other lifestyles that they forget to perform basic critical thinking abd empathy. Instead of attempting to brush off a wide range of people with very common and easily explained life qualities, why not assume people generally have reasons for the situations they're in? If there is a personality trait you dislike, one can practice observant behavior to analyze how the trait manifests in an individual and move on from there on how to deal with that individual. Trying to assume all individuals with a trait are the majority of people who may be in certain circumstances in life just seems like poor logic.

burfog 10y ago

Sure, "aren't necessarily", but likely to be strongly predictable. None of the things I list are 100% caused by anything, but lots of things in life can predict other things. For a real eye-opener, check what OkCupid's data says about people who like the taste of beer! For example, getting into that relationship in the first place was...? Were you ignoring warning signs and not really thinking about how reliable the other person might be in the long term? (if it isn't directly your fault, you probably chose unwisely, not thinking of the long-term chances) Failure to avoid health consequences is often short-term thinking. Look, we all know what happens if you live on soda and chips. Despite this, some people don't think ahead, or they "think" but fail to resist the urge. There are lots of reasons for debt. It could be a freak accident. Much of the time though, it was short-term thinking. You didn't save for the future, preferring instead to spend when you could.

SolaceQuantum 10y ago
Like I said, a lot of assumptions are being made here. Many of these have various common and easily brought up examples of how they're not necessarily an indication of the quality you're trying to sift for. By bringing a list of these not-really-indicating qualities there is going to be such a significant category of false positives that it may just look as if one is so eager to judge other lifestyles that they forget to perform basic critical thinking abd empathy. Instead of attempting to brush off a wide range of people with very common and easily explained life qualities, why not assume people generally have reasons for the situations they're in? If there is a personality trait you dislike, one can practice observant behavior to analyze how the trait manifests in an individual and move on from there on how to deal with that individual. Trying to assume all individuals with a trait are the majority of people who may be in certain circumstances in life just seems like poor logic.