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We all cry at a funeral... that is not what the family or loved ones remember. They remember the speakers, the speeches that offer something useful to explain t
by bcook 10y ago
We all cry at a funeral... that is not what the family or loved ones remember. They remember the speakers, the speeches that offer something useful to explain the occasion.
No disrespect to the parent poster (or author) but... acknowledging that something that is obviously sad is actually sad is not a very useful observation.
- DasIch 10y agoWhy would the amount of time we consciously remember something, and this alone, define it's value?
- MacsHeadroom 10y agoCan you suggest a more interesting definition of value than "lasting impact on conscious experience"?
- DasIch 10y agoI don't think I can come up with a good definition that I would be perfectly happy with. I do believe however that everything you experience will to some degree have an impact on you, even if you don't necessarily form memories around them and are able to recall these experiences. Also especially with grief it seems important to share the emotions we have, so that we can understand our own emotions better and process them. It seems to me that precisely when we achieve that goal of processing grief the lasting impact is going to be less than it would be otherwise. That doesn't make the contributions and experiences that help process that grief any less valuable.