I chose extreme examples to illustrate it. But look at it this way: your boss is the least likely person to forgive you for a given offense, because the relatio

I chose extreme examples to illustrate it. But look at it this way: your boss is the least likely person to forgive you for a given offense, because the relationship is more transactional. The opposite hypothesis seems pretty absurd. You wouldn't argue that, e.g., if you have to disappoint your boss or your spouse, your boss is more likely to remain unconditionally faithful to you. People don't exploit this, and that's a good thing. But if I were trying to avoid harm in both my professional and personal life, I'd know that personal connections are more loyal, and thus I can more afford to let them suffer in the short term. I guess health is an exception there. I'm not sure what "spirit" means, but it seems hard to change.