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My experiences were not hers, they were worse than hers. She had a solid full-time job making more than I did, appears to be healthy, and signed a lease for an
by jeremyt 10y ago
My experiences were not hers, they were worse than hers.
She had a solid full-time job making more than I did, appears to be healthy, and signed a lease for an apartment on her own. By any measure that I see, her life was both more luxurious and less stressful than mine at the time.
If you can point out one aspect of her life that wasn't self-imposed and that ended up being more of a hardship than when I went through, I'm all ears. But so far it seems like all you're saying is that I can't criticize because I'm not actually her, which seems silly.
- rm_-rf_slash 10y agoI judge neither you nor her. I make observations. I then compare those observations to previous observations to better understand people. This helps me understand others better, just as it helps me understand myself. We all have moments where we look back and realize we made bad decisions. It takes no effort to think "I should not have done that." Ditto for other people. Does that change anything? No. Does it inspire better decisions in the future? Maybe, if one is willing to learn. But simply judging what someone should or shouldn't do instead of listening and learning solves nothing. We are all human beings. We all have hopes and fears and strengths and flaws. Just remember that the next time someone is not very nice to you.