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All I'm asking is for a bit of empathy. If you're willing to have someone fly out to you, that's an enormous hassle for them but very little for you. I kind of

by bpchaps 10y ago

All I'm asking is for a bit of empathy. If you're willing to have someone fly out to you, that's an enormous hassle for them but very little for you. I kind of get the impression you're bitter or projecting something, but I can't quite put my finger on it. Not trying to be snarky, just saying.

lallysingh 10y ago
Try re-reading the first paragraph as if you were the recipient of your message. And where do you think it's no hassle for me? I spend somewhere around 4 hours every week on interviews, for years now. Job hunting is a big deal. It's real work, and literally everyone who's doing an interview has been interviewed, almost certainly in the same process. I studied up before my interviews, and I worked to manage my energy and capability when doing them. The article's premise that they should walk into an interview room and mystically get evaluated on traits that you can't directly measure, or compare objectively, is ridiculous. I read the article thinking this is the same type of guy that probably complains about having to see homeless people in SF. Completely entitled. I take offense to the premise that I don't have empathy for the candidates - evaluating a person for a job is a deeply emotional affair. I have to walk a fine line between the needs of the candidate and employer. I can't hug you or take you out for drinks, as that could result in a lawsuit. The best I can do is find the interview question that lets you show off the best of your talents. Asking for empathy without giving any in return isn't going to get you very far.
- bpchaps 10y ago
  The reason I can't put my finger on your reply is that you immediately applied everything I said to yourself and blew it up into a lengthy reply. If you're one of the "good" interviewers, then none of what I said applies to you - that simple. Yet, even if that's the case, I still can't help but notice that your reply then, and now, feels like personal projection of some kind.
  - lallysingh 10y ago
    Yeah man, that's a nice troll attempt there. Stay hungry.
    - bpchaps 10y ago
      What? I'm not being a troll. Your post was unwarrantingly personal similar and reeked of projection. Like I said - you're not relevant to my original argument if you're truly good at it and actually spend the time to care. Others don't. You're not who I'm talking about. Christ, you're taking this more personally than you should be.... Also, for what it's worth. Since you used your real name here, I looked you up on linkedin (sorry). The interview process there was the absolute worst and most impersonal series of interviews I've ever experienced in my life. I absolutely refuse to work for them after this: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11451431 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11451431

by bpchaps 10y ago

lallysingh 10y ago

Try re-reading the first paragraph as if you were the recipient of your message. And where do you think it's no hassle for me? I spend somewhere around 4 hours every week on interviews, for years now. Job hunting is a big deal. It's real work, and literally everyone who's doing an interview has been interviewed, almost certainly in the same process. I studied up before my interviews, and I worked to manage my energy and capability when doing them. The article's premise that they should walk into an interview room and mystically get evaluated on traits that you can't directly measure, or compare objectively, is ridiculous. I read the article thinking this is the same type of guy that probably complains about having to see homeless people in SF. Completely entitled. I take offense to the premise that I don't have empathy for the candidates - evaluating a person for a job is a deeply emotional affair. I have to walk a fine line between the needs of the candidate and employer. I can't hug you or take you out for drinks, as that could result in a lawsuit. The best I can do is find the interview question that lets you show off the best of your talents. Asking for empathy without giving any in return isn't going to get you very far.

bpchaps 10y ago
The reason I can't put my finger on your reply is that you immediately applied everything I said to yourself and blew it up into a lengthy reply. If you're one of the "good" interviewers, then none of what I said applies to you - that simple. Yet, even if that's the case, I still can't help but notice that your reply then, and now, feels like personal projection of some kind.
- lallysingh 10y ago
  Yeah man, that's a nice troll attempt there. Stay hungry.
  - bpchaps 10y ago
    What? I'm not being a troll. Your post was unwarrantingly personal similar and reeked of projection. Like I said - you're not relevant to my original argument if you're truly good at it and actually spend the time to care. Others don't. You're not who I'm talking about. Christ, you're taking this more personally than you should be.... Also, for what it's worth. Since you used your real name here, I looked you up on linkedin (sorry). The interview process there was the absolute worst and most impersonal series of interviews I've ever experienced in my life. I absolutely refuse to work for them after this: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11451431 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11451431