No, you're too focused on you; it's zero sum because two men can't have her, one gets her and one doesn't. Zero sum isn't about you, it's about if getting what

No, you're too focused on you; it's zero sum because two men can't have her, one gets her and one doesn't. Zero sum isn't about you, it's about if getting what you want deprives someone else of what they want, which it does in the case of a woman.