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If anyone has a baby, I feel this is what its like having a new born at your home for the first year. I slept HARD before I have ever had kids, but for some re

If anyone has a baby, I feel this is what its like having a new born at your home for the first year. I slept HARD before I have ever had kids, but for some reason, that first year, I slept very lightly and would wake up to a cry.

Smircio- 10y ago
Oh totally. My wife seems immune to his stirrings on the baby monitor. Without fail, no matter the time of night, I will wake up even if he silently stands up in the crib. Yhe only time I sleep hard now is when someone else is watching him.
- tamana 10y ago
  So you have secondary monitoring to verify that you wake up "without fail"?
txutxu 10y ago
A baby is for life but maybe when it's new and our responsibility, then our brain changes or starts (or does not turn off) certain mechanisms too. I was thinking more about "my room", I've moved because job reasons 3 times in my life, and I always start renting a room in the new place. First day is always the same, clean up (just in case) and try to make it feel like my room, personally. Always sleep well, but with the time, sleep better when certain "things" are fixed to my taste in the room. I think this maybe even hard-coded in our ADN. Because to be here, our ancestors did search and modify many caves.
CodeCube 10y ago
haha ... I have a similar story. One example, my mother-in-law was living with us at the time and she offered to take the baby for a night to give us a night's rest. Her room was downstairs, ours was upstairs. First time the baby woke up (as usual), my eyes popped open the moment her cries rang through the house, after about 20 seconds she hadn't stopped or otherwise sounded like she got picked up, I ran downstairs and had her in my arms before my mother-in-law even woke up (the bassinet was literally next to her bed). Aside from that, before and after they've grown up, I'm a pretty heavy sleeper :)
zaphar 10y ago
I sleep walked with our first baby. I don't sleep walk normally and as far as I know this was the first only time period when I did. Apparently my wife would tell me to get the baby and I would do it in my sleep with absolutely no recollection after of having done so.
- hola_hola 10y ago
  You were not sleep walking. You were fully awake. At the time you were fully conscious but as soon as you went to sleep you forgot about it. It has happened to me many times. Usually when I'm not getting enough sleep.
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  - jacobolus 10y ago
    This is a semantic quibble as much as a substantive one. “Asleep” vs. “awake” isn’t really a binary distinction. Both sleepwalking (which isn’t a single well-defined thing) and the kind of awake-but-then-suffer-amnesia states you are talking about (can be caused by extreme tiredness, too much alcohol, dementia, etc.) fall somewhere in between full alertness and deep sleep.
    - civilian 10y ago
      I think sleepwalking _is_ a defined thing. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleepwalking https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleepwalking What Zaphar is describing is not true sleepwalking, it's just that he was awake such a short time that he didn't form memories about it. In much the same way that I can't remember how I walked to work this morning.
    - tamana 10y ago
      The difference between sleepwalking and not remembering your wakeup is in how alert and responsive you are during the up time.
overcast 10y ago
I don't have a child, but this happened after buying a house, and living alone. I went from dead to the world sleep, to hearing everything happening in the house. Even ten years later, I still sleep significantly lighter.
- carom 10y ago
  This happens to me falling asleep. I have a dog though, so I know if anyone is breaking in he will let me know.
  - overcast 10y ago
    I would probably rest easier with a dog. One of these days when life slows down, I will get one :)
    - marak830 10y ago
      It helped me. Although occasionally(such as last night), she will keep getting up, walking around my wife in bed, to check on me. Sweet but kept walking me up all night haha. Almost never happens though and my sleep is quite a bit better knowing she is around.
- xeromal 10y ago
  I struggled with sleeping when I moved to a new state years ago. I still am a little anxious when I sleep and I have my sleep regiment down to the minute in order to get a solid night's rest. I think sleep has some innocence until you lose it and afterward it changes permanently. It has in my life so far.
  - overcast 10y ago
    I know, I wish I could go back to child hood sleeping. Not caring about anything. Sad.
    - tamana 10y ago
barsonme 10y ago
According to my dad it doesn't go away. When I got old enough to go out places with my friends and come home later at night (past 11, for example) my dad said it took a couple years before he could fall asleep without hearing the garage door open, and he's a deep sleeper who's never had any issues sleeping anywhere. We've joked he's going to miss his own funeral because he's slept in.

Smircio- 10y ago

Oh totally. My wife seems immune to his stirrings on the baby monitor. Without fail, no matter the time of night, I will wake up even if he silently stands up in the crib. Yhe only time I sleep hard now is when someone else is watching him.

tamana 10y ago
So you have secondary monitoring to verify that you wake up "without fail"?

txutxu 10y ago

A baby is for life but maybe when it's new and our responsibility, then our brain changes or starts (or does not turn off) certain mechanisms too. I was thinking more about "my room", I've moved because job reasons 3 times in my life, and I always start renting a room in the new place. First day is always the same, clean up (just in case) and try to make it feel like my room, personally. Always sleep well, but with the time, sleep better when certain "things" are fixed to my taste in the room. I think this maybe even hard-coded in our ADN. Because to be here, our ancestors did search and modify many caves.

CodeCube 10y ago

haha ... I have a similar story. One example, my mother-in-law was living with us at the time and she offered to take the baby for a night to give us a night's rest. Her room was downstairs, ours was upstairs. First time the baby woke up (as usual), my eyes popped open the moment her cries rang through the house, after about 20 seconds she hadn't stopped or otherwise sounded like she got picked up, I ran downstairs and had her in my arms before my mother-in-law even woke up (the bassinet was literally next to her bed). Aside from that, before and after they've grown up, I'm a pretty heavy sleeper :)

zaphar 10y ago

I sleep walked with our first baby. I don't sleep walk normally and as far as I know this was the first only time period when I did. Apparently my wife would tell me to get the baby and I would do it in my sleep with absolutely no recollection after of having done so.

hola_hola 10y ago
You were not sleep walking. You were fully awake. At the time you were fully conscious but as soon as you went to sleep you forgot about it. It has happened to me many times. Usually when I'm not getting enough sleep.
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- jacobolus 10y ago
  This is a semantic quibble as much as a substantive one. “Asleep” vs. “awake” isn’t really a binary distinction. Both sleepwalking (which isn’t a single well-defined thing) and the kind of awake-but-then-suffer-amnesia states you are talking about (can be caused by extreme tiredness, too much alcohol, dementia, etc.) fall somewhere in between full alertness and deep sleep.
  - civilian 10y ago
    I think sleepwalking _is_ a defined thing. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleepwalking https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleepwalking What Zaphar is describing is not true sleepwalking, it's just that he was awake such a short time that he didn't form memories about it. In much the same way that I can't remember how I walked to work this morning.
  - tamana 10y ago
    The difference between sleepwalking and not remembering your wakeup is in how alert and responsive you are during the up time.

overcast 10y ago

I don't have a child, but this happened after buying a house, and living alone. I went from dead to the world sleep, to hearing everything happening in the house. Even ten years later, I still sleep significantly lighter.

carom 10y ago
This happens to me falling asleep. I have a dog though, so I know if anyone is breaking in he will let me know.
- overcast 10y ago
  I would probably rest easier with a dog. One of these days when life slows down, I will get one :)
  - marak830 10y ago
    It helped me. Although occasionally(such as last night), she will keep getting up, walking around my wife in bed, to check on me. Sweet but kept walking me up all night haha. Almost never happens though and my sleep is quite a bit better knowing she is around.
xeromal 10y ago
I struggled with sleeping when I moved to a new state years ago. I still am a little anxious when I sleep and I have my sleep regiment down to the minute in order to get a solid night's rest. I think sleep has some innocence until you lose it and afterward it changes permanently. It has in my life so far.
- overcast 10y ago
  I know, I wish I could go back to child hood sleeping. Not caring about anything. Sad.
  - tamana 10y ago

barsonme 10y ago

According to my dad it doesn't go away. When I got old enough to go out places with my friends and come home later at night (past 11, for example) my dad said it took a couple years before he could fall asleep without hearing the garage door open, and he's a deep sleeper who's never had any issues sleeping anywhere. We've joked he's going to miss his own funeral because he's slept in.