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On the flipside, that is what makes me feel old. In my teens/20s, my friends/colleagues and I would just go casually someplace to hang out after work/school wi
by colmvp 11y ago
On the flipside, that is what makes me feel old.
In my teens/20s, my friends/colleagues and I would just go casually someplace to hang out after work/school without planning squat. (After class) Hey, let's go to x's house and chill. (After work) Everyone, let's go to x bar and unwind for a few hours. Now? I can't remember the last time I could casually say to a friend to hangout tomorrow. Practically everyone (save one's SO) seems like they need a few days to weeks notice in advanced. It's not an exaggeration to say that sometimes I have to book people 2-4 weeks in advance just to have a coffee/lunch! All I have to say is thank god for meetup.com which fills the space in between.
- nostrademons 11y agoI had the same experience when I hit my 30s. I think it's because peoples' social networks expand through their 20s, and there's a bit of a social arms-race once peoples' calendars and social circles start to fill up. It's often considered rude to say "Somebody invited me to something else and I'd rather hang out with them than you, so I have to cancel", so most people take a first-come-first-serve approach to accepting invites. That means that each one of their friends needs to schedule before anyone else gets to them, so peoples' calendars fill up increasingly far out. And then they get promoted, get married, and have kids, and they don't have time to hang out at all...