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Unless You're Changing It, Quit Your Bitchin'
- wglb 17y agoWhat wasn't part of the headline is something quite important: then I am truly sorry and I will be here for you and listen to everything you have to say.
- stingraycharles 17y agoExcept that that part is only about things you truly can't change, - which isn't applicable to a lot of bitching, since people rarely bitch about things they can't change.
- abstractbill 17y agopeople rarely bitch about things they can't change That's not my experience, at all. As far as I can tell, people bitch about everything they don't like - whether they can change it or not. It can be cathartic, and some people seem to need to bitch about stuff, even when they know they can and will do something about it later.
- JangoSteve 17y agoI agree. And like the article says, I have no problem listening to people bitch about things they can't change. Sometimes, the world can suck.
- Estragon 17y agoThey do it all the time, even about things which don't actually cause them any practical difficulties, but simply resonate with their neuroses.
- idlewords 17y agoWhat I'm bitching about: self-help style articles posted by their authors What I'm doing to change it: pressed "flag"
- JangoSteve 17y agoI was also very conscientious of that, but the general consensus of the HN community is that self-posts are completely acceptable (or even preferred). (see thread http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1016713 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1016713) Concerning the content of the article, if people don't like it, they won't vote it up.
- mhartl 17y agoI think you mean s/contentious/conscious/. But you're right: self-posts are definitely acceptable. At least, given my submission history, they had better be. ;-)
- JangoSteve 17y agoOops, actually I meant conscientious. Thanks though!
- idlewords 17y agoIt's /conscientious about/, which you seem to have confused with /conscious of/.
- JangoSteve 17y agoBoth "of" and "about" are correct in this case. See definitions (9) and (10) of the word, "of." http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/of http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/of In the English language, "of" and "about" can be used more or less as synonyms with only subtle differences. E.g. "I heard about the play," or, "I heard of the play." "The play was about peace and love," or "The play was of peace and love."
- idlewords 17y agoCompare: You are wrong about English usage You are wrong of English usage
- tomjen2 17y agoThe problem is that there is far more things that you could fix than you would have the time to fix, even if you lived two centuries. The best you can do about those is to bitch and hope somebody else is going to fix them.
- emilind 17y agoAre HN readers so insecure that they need constant pep talks? Come on you alphas, at least pretend you've got it together.
- bugs 17y agoMeh bitching helps, if I mess up an exam I was supposed to do good on because of obscure notation I forgot to study but I understood the concepts and solution better than anyone damn straight I am going to bitch. I can't change the past but I can remember what to do next time and that bitching will help me remember. Though my form of bitching may differ from others.
- JangoSteve 17y agoIn your case, bitching is changing things then, just as the article mentioned. I agree that at times, bitching helps.
- rogermugs 17y agothe only problem is that this is just how women think. they want to feel the problem for a while... not fix it. notice thats how the post was inspired.
- rogermugs 17y agodont vote down the truth just because you're a member of said gender.