If you want to be sociable, it's your responsibility to socialise where your friends socialise. It's not the bar's fault, or the sports club's fault, or Facebo

If you want to be sociable, it's your responsibility to socialise where your friends socialise. It's not the bar's fault, or the sports club's fault, or Facebook's fault, if your friends choose to go there but you don't. The situation is only "involuntary" in that the choices of your friends aren't under your own control. But thanks to Facebook the situation -is- free of charge. True genius might lie in protocols. But it's up to your friends if they prefer communicating you via protocols or via a friendly website with a good mobile app.