There seems to be a spectrum between whether you consider your feelings mutable and the world absolute or whether your feelings are absolute and the world needs

There seems to be a spectrum between whether you consider your feelings mutable and the world absolute or whether your feelings are absolute and the world needs to change to accommodate them. The ever-expanding harm movement leans heavily towards the latter. If something makes you feel bad, then it must inherently be bad and must be changed. There doesn't seem to be any consideration that maybe it's your feelings that need to change, or even any acknowledgement that you can change how you feel about something. It's definitely not always one or other other, but to be constantly at the mercy of whatever circumstances happen to exist at the moment seems like a very difficult way to live one's life.