umm, yes. a high cost. not just in money, but in "hassle". our culture, almost entirely, also thinks that kids have a high return. yes. i wasn't denying that. t

umm, yes. a high cost. not just in money, but in "hassle". our culture, almost entirely, also thinks that kids have a high return. yes. i wasn't denying that. though i do think that set of opinions constitutes the wrong attitude to have.