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The goal is not to sound like "yes in principle" because they usually don't say yes, they typically say "Oh, I can't, I'm busy, I have to meet a friend for dinn
by scott_s 11y ago
The goal is not to sound like "yes in principle" because they usually don't say yes, they typically say "Oh, I can't, I'm busy, I have to meet a friend for dinner".
I have also been gender neutral in my pronouns because I'm a guy, I've been asked out by women I did not want to go out with, and it was awkward, and it would have felt worse to just say a simple "No, I'm not interested". But she picked up on that just fine. My point is that there really isn't much second-guessing required. If they say yes, then you're good. If they counter-offer with a different time, you're still good. If they say anything else, that's no.
- stcredzero 11y agoThis would be viable if it were clear, codified, and widely accepted. It's not universally accepted. I've also been in situations where I properly took the information as literal, and this was the right thing to do. I associate this degree of social/mental gymnastics with Victorian England or the antebellum South, not rational people in 2016.
- zyxley 11y ago> This would be viable if it were clear, codified, and widely accepted. It's not universally accepted. Given the number of people directly disagreeing with you here, I think you need to reevaluate your premise.