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I reiterate: "I wish I could just say "no", because most men would be civil and bow out and appreciate the straightforwardness. But I have no way to know in ad
by ghostcat 11y ago
I reiterate:
"I wish I could just say "no", because most men would be civil and bow out and appreciate the straightforwardness. But I have no way to know in advance which kind of person any given guy is going to be."
It's erring on the side of caution because I fear for my personal safety. I wish it weren't this way, but surely you can empathize with a desire to protect oneself, particularly given negative experiences in the past?
- stcredzero 11y agoI can empathize, which is why I can also empathize with being "profiled." I know that from both sides. I also know what it's like to be objectified as an emblem or symbol or any number of things less than human. However, the long term and just solution to prejudice can't be more prejudice. Social norms which "profile" me based on an attribute I was born with can't be socially just. I also have no way of knowing in advance which white person is going to attack or denigrate me next. (Of all those incidents in my life, it is that "group" which is most prevalent.) Should I interact in a way which assumes any of them might at any time?