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The opposite absolutely exists. I've had female bosses, professors, etc. that all the women loved and admired, while all the men agreed she was out to get them.

philovivero 11y ago
Are you certain of that? In my experience, women superficially will say glowing and great things about other women, but when the honesty comes out, there's vitriolic hatred. Women have a far more sophisticated sense of situation-appropriate speech. Men think of it as "two-faced," but it's just Machiavellian maneuvering. When taken at face value, it's easy to mistake women as having great respect and love for one-another.
- clevernickname 11y ago
  I get where you're coming from, but I'm pretty sure in most of the cases I'm thinking about. Say, with women I was close enough to that we could have a great time privately talking shit about other professors, yet when it came to the "man hating" one almost all genuinely seemed to like or at least respect her. EDIT: I was just thinking about how this professor would grade men worse than women for essentially the same answers and realized that you could make a pretty compelling case for early education (which is predominately staffed by women) being biased against boys, and cite the greater number of women that go on to enter higher education as a potential consequence of it. I wonder why nobody raises a stink about that.
collyw 11y ago
The female boss in one place I worked seem to hate all the women who worked under her, but generally loved the guys.
- bsder 11y ago
  This seems to be my general experience. Female boss/female employee seems to be the most volatile combination. To be fair, from my viewpoint, most of them seemed to be actually acting fairly. If a guy had done something similar, any one of them would have ripped him apart, too. I don't have any explanation.
MollyR 11y ago
yea it really depends on the person. I've had female bosses that went out of their way to harass men because they knew they could get away with it (HR didn't believe the men), and I've also had female bosses who were threatened by younger women, and harassed the heck out me.

philovivero 11y ago

Are you certain of that? In my experience, women superficially will say glowing and great things about other women, but when the honesty comes out, there's vitriolic hatred. Women have a far more sophisticated sense of situation-appropriate speech. Men think of it as "two-faced," but it's just Machiavellian maneuvering. When taken at face value, it's easy to mistake women as having great respect and love for one-another.

clevernickname 11y ago
I get where you're coming from, but I'm pretty sure in most of the cases I'm thinking about. Say, with women I was close enough to that we could have a great time privately talking shit about other professors, yet when it came to the "man hating" one almost all genuinely seemed to like or at least respect her. EDIT: I was just thinking about how this professor would grade men worse than women for essentially the same answers and realized that you could make a pretty compelling case for early education (which is predominately staffed by women) being biased against boys, and cite the greater number of women that go on to enter higher education as a potential consequence of it. I wonder why nobody raises a stink about that.

collyw 11y ago

The female boss in one place I worked seem to hate all the women who worked under her, but generally loved the guys.

bsder 11y ago
This seems to be my general experience. Female boss/female employee seems to be the most volatile combination. To be fair, from my viewpoint, most of them seemed to be actually acting fairly. If a guy had done something similar, any one of them would have ripped him apart, too. I don't have any explanation.

MollyR 11y ago

yea it really depends on the person. I've had female bosses that went out of their way to harass men because they knew they could get away with it (HR didn't believe the men), and I've also had female bosses who were threatened by younger women, and harassed the heck out me.