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Think about it another way, if a girl asked you out and you didn't want to go out with her, what would you do? Sure, some of us, like some woman, don't really
by ownagefool 11y ago
Think about it another way, if a girl asked you out and you didn't want to go out with her, what would you do? Sure, some of us, like some woman, don't really care and will just shut it down, but many of us would just make an excuse so we're not outright rude.
Either way, learn by being told, or learn by using empathy, if she doesn't counter offer it was a no. Once you've had your 3rd no, you're that creepy guy fyi.
- stcredzero 11y agoThink about it another way, if a girl asked you out and you didn't want to go out with her, what would you do? I'd give a straight-forward answer to a fellow adult, assuming she or he will take it in a rational and mature fashion. I certainly wouldn't say anything that could be confused on the surface with, "I would, but I can't."
- ownagefool 11y agoCool. You've now crippled the a girls self-esteem, where as using the nice way would give her the ability to lie to herself whilst making sure to never ask again.
- stcredzero 11y agoYou've now crippled the a girls self-esteem I find this weirdly Victorian. I should treat grown women as fragile flowers that can't take a straight answer?
- ownagefool 11y agoWhich is the same way they treat you. I don't think it's my fault this escapes you but I must admit, it's neither really based on logic nor efficacy, it's a social thing. Put more emphasis on "I want to avoid an awkward situation" and "I don't want to hurt their feelings" less on "but people are adults" and you're pretty much there though.
- qb45 11y ago> lie to herself whilst making sure to never ask again. How is this a good thing? It just confuses people.