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> Making someone feel like a rapist for believing what is said or failing to correctly second guess is just weird and oppressive in itself. It is unfortunate a
by tome 11y ago
> Making someone feel like a rapist for believing what is said or failing to correctly second guess is just weird and oppressive in itself.
It is unfortunate and I sympathise with your hurt feelings, but I think this is just something you should take on the chin.
- stcredzero 11y agoDouble standards and requiring second guessing based on gender is as harmful now as it was in the 50's.
- vkou 11y agoFor you, the wrong response to your question causes harm to your feelings. For a woman, giving the wrong response to an obsessed creeper can cause harm to her career, her body, or her life. (Yes, I am quite aware that women can be creepy and violent. No, it is not a frequent power dynamic in the office.) It would certainly be nice if we could be honest all the time, but you are demanding far too much in this bargain.