I agree with what you're saying. Generalized advice doesn't work with everyone and with every situation since people are different. You've got to take what does

I agree with what you're saying. Generalized advice doesn't work with everyone and with every situation since people are different. You've got to take what does apply and leave the rest. I'm going to therapy now too and my therapist does help me to not to take the assertiveness too far but at the same time she admits that she's shocked to see me go through such vast improvements in such a short amount of time. I'm surprised too, once I stopped caring so much about the relationship and I actually tried to end it after my wife got physically abusive again, my wife is now getting her act more together and realizes that domestic violence is an immediate relationship-ender for me now.