"Is there a 'Soul Mate' for most people? Probably not." Sadly, I think you are right. There's still a part of that believes in the Soul Mate thing, but in my

"Is there a 'Soul Mate' for most people? Probably not." Sadly, I think you are right. There's still a part of that believes in the Soul Mate thing, but in my case it's always been tied into looks, and my immediate surroundings. And I never thought, on my worst day; I was remotely superficial, but I am. I've gotten to the point, where I just cringe when I hear someone is getting married. I will admit to this though. I definetly think there's something to chemistry. I've always had something inside myself that just knew when a physical relationship would work. That chemistry had nothing to do with physical appearance. Sometimes I really didn't even like, nor respect the person I was with. If any dating site can come up with a chemistry app, they would make a fortune. And no--just because someone photographs well; in no correlates to chemistry, at least for myself. I once dated this very attractive lady. She knew she was attractive, but wasen't capitalizing on it then. When we held each other, their was just someting that didn't feel right. One night she accused me of being gay. I took the easy way out, and said "maybe", but in reality being with her was like hugging my sister. I made the mistake of being too honest with a girlfrined once. We were being honest about our past partners. She kept on asking me, "Why did you sleep with her, if you couldn't stand her?". I told her the truth--because sex has nothing to do with love. She was irate that night, and following week, but had me repeat that story over, and over again. We were both drinking when she would ask me to repeat these non-love sex stories. Ugh--went off course again. I'm not feeling well. I have Shingles on my torso, and never thought the pain would be this intense.