Thanks for a great post. I can see the potential for what you describe. My goal was quite simple: rather than a popularity contest, I wanted someone who was my

Thanks for a great post. I can see the potential for what you describe. My goal was quite simple: rather than a popularity contest, I wanted someone who was my intellectual equal. This was a novel concept to the women I dated. None of them could cope: dominate or be dominated was the game. I knew my wife as a friend for 10 years before we married. To this day, we see each other as equals, which is unbelievably fulfilling (even after years of marriage). Other than our love of technology (as early geeks) we don't have many hobbies in common. I don't think any dating sites would have helped us find each other because of our different interests. I don't believe in a soul mate and never did. My wife and I both understand our personal needs and our needs as a couple. Find that commonality and you are likely to find great happiness.