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Once upon a time I dated a very good looking girl. I got to see the "before" and "after" as it took her two hours in the morning to get ready. It gave me a th

by ramses0 11y ago

Once upon a time I dated a very good looking girl. I got to see the "before" and "after" as it took her two hours in the morning to get ready. It gave me a theory which I call the "two hours a day" theory. If anyone (even a self-described "2") puts in 2 hours a day trying to look attractive, they will have some level of success. That might be 2 hours a day picking your clothes, 2 hours fixing your hair, brushing your teeth, whatever... short term things. That might also be 2 hours a day in the gym (physical appearance), or 2 hours a day practicing public speaking (confidence, crowd control), anything which helps radiate attractiveness, draw people in so they can see all the things that make you attractive which don't appear at first glance. If you're not spending 2 hours a day trying to look attractive or be attractive, you can't really complain because the most attractive people I know spend (invest) on the order of that much time to get there and stay there. If it's a weight thing, hit up the weight loss subreddits (/r/loseit, /r/fitness, /r/progresspics, etc) and talk to a psychologist about it. When you don't take care of yourself it can manifest as weight gain, but the core is not taking care of yourself which is fundamentally psychological. (ie: rating yourself as a 2 on a scale of 1-10 doesn't bode well for positive self-image and self confidence). Talk to a psychologist about it, seriously. May is Mental Health Awareness month so it's a perfect time to look into it and take action. If it's anything else cosmetic (hair, teeth, skin, clothes) that's an easy fix and a lot of times can literally be resolved in an afternoon if you have the right instruction (/r/skincareaddiction, /r/malefashionadvice, /r/streetwear). My email is ramses0@yahoo.com if you or anyone else wants to continue the discussion (news.y.c messaging isn't the thing I check the most) and if you're in the Bay Area I wouldn't mind meeting up some time, hanging out and just talking.

ben_jones 11y ago
Really interesting point. I had similar thoughts but I always distributed the time investment over the course of the day, like you spend 5 minutes at lunch in your decision not to get fast-food, 20 minutes throughout the day getting the right out-fit, an hour doing cardio, etc. I think the two hours at once thing is more meaningful because it makes you really great at that one thing. Then you get to spend the whole day thinking in the back of your mind "I'm really great at this one thing".
IkmoIkmo 11y ago
Hah that reminds me of the pornstar before and after (google it) you see pop up on Buzzfeed like sites every now and then. Anyway, this is probably quite close to the truth. I mean I've had conversations for years in high school about the ugliest and nerdies guys in my class. We'd basically be going over 'why he wouldn't just do x, y and z, because he'd go from a 2 to a 6 with a basic change in apparel, clothing, perfume, haircut, and to a 7 within a year by working out'. I mean that's what most of the 7s do in this world. I'm no different, really, just a normal dude who brushes his teeth, showers, mimics a casual hip style and gets a haircut at a hip place once a month. I barely pay attention to my looks, but I definitely make sure to get the basics right. Of course once a year, an ugly person would become 'beautiful' over the summer vacation and would return to school with a new look, confirming the notion. Nothing changed about them in those 2 months, except the cut of the hair, the pieces of clothing, the paint and smell. A lot of the time it was just kids 'maturing' their style for the first time at age 15. Isn't everyone familiar with that story? I mean, take all of those makeover shows where they transform someone who's just horrible... usually the only 'big' thing they do is find a person with horrible teeth and fix that, which isn't a trivial thing... but that's not applicable to most people, perhaps a tiny bit of whitening is needed which I don't think costs much anymore these days. But other than that, it's all just a few hundred bucks of clothing, a $30 haircut, $30 perfume. Add 2x 60 minute workout sessions and a decent diet and you're pretty much there. I think most people who haven't put in any effort, can get a change that's at least somewhere on this spectrum: http://static.businessinsider.com/image/527bdb6969beddec59df1743/image.jpg http://static.businessinsider.com/image/527bdb6969beddec59df...
kevin365 11y ago
Jesus Christ you're a moron. No wonder you're single.

by ramses0 11y ago

ben_jones 11y ago

Really interesting point. I had similar thoughts but I always distributed the time investment over the course of the day, like you spend 5 minutes at lunch in your decision not to get fast-food, 20 minutes throughout the day getting the right out-fit, an hour doing cardio, etc. I think the two hours at once thing is more meaningful because it makes you really great at that one thing. Then you get to spend the whole day thinking in the back of your mind "I'm really great at this one thing".

IkmoIkmo 11y ago

Hah that reminds me of the pornstar before and after (google it) you see pop up on Buzzfeed like sites every now and then. Anyway, this is probably quite close to the truth. I mean I've had conversations for years in high school about the ugliest and nerdies guys in my class. We'd basically be going over 'why he wouldn't just do x, y and z, because he'd go from a 2 to a 6 with a basic change in apparel, clothing, perfume, haircut, and to a 7 within a year by working out'. I mean that's what most of the 7s do in this world. I'm no different, really, just a normal dude who brushes his teeth, showers, mimics a casual hip style and gets a haircut at a hip place once a month. I barely pay attention to my looks, but I definitely make sure to get the basics right. Of course once a year, an ugly person would become 'beautiful' over the summer vacation and would return to school with a new look, confirming the notion. Nothing changed about them in those 2 months, except the cut of the hair, the pieces of clothing, the paint and smell. A lot of the time it was just kids 'maturing' their style for the first time at age 15. Isn't everyone familiar with that story? I mean, take all of those makeover shows where they transform someone who's just horrible... usually the only 'big' thing they do is find a person with horrible teeth and fix that, which isn't a trivial thing... but that's not applicable to most people, perhaps a tiny bit of whitening is needed which I don't think costs much anymore these days. But other than that, it's all just a few hundred bucks of clothing, a $30 haircut, $30 perfume. Add 2x 60 minute workout sessions and a decent diet and you're pretty much there. I think most people who haven't put in any effort, can get a change that's at least somewhere on this spectrum: http://static.businessinsider.com/image/527bdb6969beddec59df1743/image.jpg http://static.businessinsider.com/image/527bdb6969beddec59df...

kevin365 11y ago

Jesus Christ you're a moron. No wonder you're single.