I think the problem is that you really need to meet in person to figure out if you're attracted to someone else. One of the main points in the article is that p

I think the problem is that you really need to meet in person to figure out if you're attracted to someone else. One of the main points in the article is that people don't really know what they're attracted to. I know I've been really into someone based on what they seem like on tinder or over text and then had a really flat date with them in person. On the flip side, I've had people I felt kind of ambivalent about who I had a great time with once I met them in person. My strategy now is just to use attractiveness as a screen (since realistically I'm not going to date someone much less attractive than me) and try to meet for a drink as soon as possible. I'm sure I lose out on some people who want to move a bit more slowly, but that doesn't matter since I save tons of time by avoiding people I have no mutual attraction with.