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I think Finkel raises many good points, but there is one paragraph that alienated me, which is apparently Finkel's vision: Afterward, you rate your dates. And
by Kenji 11y ago
I think Finkel raises many good points, but there is one paragraph that alienated me, which is apparently Finkel's vision:
Afterward, you rate your dates. And so does the app’s artificial intelligence, which can recognize signs of compatibility (or incompatibility) that you might have missed. At the end of the night, the app tells you which prospects are worth a second look. Over time, the AI might even learn (via follow-up experiments) which combination of signals predicts the happiest relationships, or the most enduring.
Excuse me? I need an algorithm now to figure out who I like and whose relationship I want to deepen? I need an algorithm to detect my love?? Sometimes I feel like this mechanistic mindset is exactly what is wrong with dating today. What happened to good old feelings?
- sokoloff 11y agoI've been with my (now) wife for a little over 10 years, but from what I recall of dating, my early/first reactions to someone were not guided by the same factors with the same weights as my later interactions. (Sexual attraction/lust dominates early and intellectual/moral/lifestyle compatibility increases greatly in importance over time, but not in the first few dates.) There may be a way to optimize that process somewhat, if satisfying and enduring relationship is the goal.
- Avshalom 11y agoIt's the technologist equivalent of having a mutual friend that insists that "no trust me give it a couple more dates"
- Nutmog 11y agoHow do you explain all the single people who've been on many dates and are still single? There's a lot of them who'd rather not be. They evidently don't have this skill that you claim to.