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I think one of the biggest reasons people don't give themselves a work-life balance is peer pressure and the desire to please others first. People pleasing, des
by joesmo 11y ago
I think one of the biggest reasons people don't give themselves a work-life balance is peer pressure and the desire to please others first. People pleasing, despite its name, is a problem with the person that's doing the manipulation. It's also a problem for the person that's doing it because they're doing something that's not in their own interest, simply to please others and fit in.
A lot of this is justified by startups as necessary and most young people are just simply too stupid to know any different. When I see a 25 year old who isn't a founder working 12 hour days constantly despite getting no benefits and actually causing a ton of harm, I can only attribute that to ignorance and stupidity. Usually, he has been fooled by the people running the company into thinking that his work is necessary at the moment and that it will be repaid. It's neither necessary at the moment, nor will he ever be repaid a single penny. In fact, when he stops working so hard, he'll be fired.
As Radiohead put it in the song "Just": "You do it to yourself, you do And that's what really hurts".
- altotrees 11y ago>I think one of the biggest reasons people don't give themselves a work-life balance is peer pressure and the desire to please others first. This is the root of the issue in my opinion. When I fail to achieve work/life balance, it is usually due to one of two things: 1. To please my direct co-workers, manager, CEO. 2. To please everyone else — that is, make enough to live the way I envision other people expect me to be living, and doing the things I imagine them expecting me to be doing. Living for even the imagined expectations of others can take a heavy toll. It took time to unlearn that way of thinking.