Well stated. We were involved in a fracas something like this, but on a smaller scale. One of my key learnings was exactly this. Our lawyer (a magnificent guy

Well stated. We were involved in a fracas something like this, but on a smaller scale. One of my key learnings was exactly this. Our lawyer (a magnificent guy who stewarded through the ugly process) said early on "you can bet that the other guy's lawyer is getting an entirely different story from what you've told me". Much as we (especially techies) like to think of ourselves as binary,rational types, the fact is that two intelligent people can each hold conflicting, but sincerely held worldviews. Its very hard to get your head around this - the natural thing is to got full on fight instinct - he's a bastard, he's lying, he's out to screw me and my family, he'll say anything. Add on top the fact that things often are gray - likely in this case there are two sides to the story, other guy probably has a rightful beef about this.