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OK. I've seen this work so often, but it could be that this is not efficient if you are actively looking. I think I understand your dilemma with male-dominated

OK. I've seen this work so often, but it could be that this is not efficient if you are actively looking. I think I understand your dilemma with male-dominated hobbies. Most of the things I do are male-dominated as well. I met my girlfriend in high school, and for a long time it annoyed me that she showed little interest in my stuff. Until at some point I realised that it's not necessary to like all the same things. It doesn't matter that we are different in many regards; over the years we've still found a lot of things we both like, and deep down we seem to have a similar world view despite being superficially completely different. So maybe you should stop looking for women that are similar to you, and accept that your future partner will not care about the majority of your interests. At least in my experience that's really okay; as long as you have respect for another.

p4wnc6 11y ago
I don't mind looking for women who are different from me. Some of my previous girlfriends were very different from me and we got along very well. I wrote my reply based on the claim that I should join some social groups or something to heighten the chances of randomly meeting someone new. If you assume that is the way to do it, then the dilemma is (a) it's not very efficient because most people doing the activity aren't really a good match and are just trying to do the activity, and (b) all the activities that actually make me happy are male-dominated and even anti-correlated with popular depictions (depictions that are borne out in the data too, e.g. when OKCupid posts their data) of what women want in a man. If you disregard the suggestion of needing to use social hobbies as a means for finding a date, then I agree with you, and finding people who are different from me has been the primary way in which I have had previous relationships.

p4wnc6 11y ago

I don't mind looking for women who are different from me. Some of my previous girlfriends were very different from me and we got along very well. I wrote my reply based on the claim that I should join some social groups or something to heighten the chances of randomly meeting someone new. If you assume that is the way to do it, then the dilemma is (a) it's not very efficient because most people doing the activity aren't really a good match and are just trying to do the activity, and (b) all the activities that actually make me happy are male-dominated and even anti-correlated with popular depictions (depictions that are borne out in the data too, e.g. when OKCupid posts their data) of what women want in a man. If you disregard the suggestion of needing to use social hobbies as a means for finding a date, then I agree with you, and finding people who are different from me has been the primary way in which I have had previous relationships.