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"Men might try to use Tinder for hook-ups" that's traditionally what it's been for. The "long term relationship" crowd has literally every other dating app out

"Men might try to use Tinder for hook-ups" that's traditionally what it's been for. The "long term relationship" crowd has literally every other dating app out there, but so many of them flooded onto Tinder to "just give it a try" that it changed things. "but the higher quality female users sort out male users who project this image" That comes across as kind of... snobby? "maybe a dog or picture of you doing something you are good at (i.e. surfing, dancing)." you'd be surprised how many other women complain about guys doing just that in photos.

ebrowndowntown 11y ago
I think you're making a lot of assumptions. Traditionally? Tinder hasn't been around that long. I think of Tinder as a marketplace, just like a singles bar--some people are there to hook up and some people are there for a long term relationship. I'll take the criticism on labeling females who are looking for long term relationships as "high quality." I'm not judging anyone's motives. But I will stand by the sentiment that people are sorting for matches that meet their goals, and many women have #relationshipgoals. The women who complain about guys doing things in their photos don't have to match with those guys. They can match with non-dancers, non-surfers.
Grishnakh 11y ago
>that's traditionally what it's been for. No, that's what it was for, and still is for, for the 18-25 crowd. When the older crowd started using it, their interest was different. >The "long term relationship" crowd has literally every other dating app out there, but so many of them flooded onto Tinder to "just give it a try" that it changed things. No, it was the 25+ and especially 30+ crowd flooding onto it that changed things. The reason they like it is because Tinder works better for both men and women. Men hate traditional dating sites because they spend all kinds of time looking through profiles, then writing messages, only to get no response. Women get overwhelmed on those sites by all the messages from men they have zero interest in. Tinder solves this problem by forcing both parties to respond affirmatively in order for communication to proceed. >you'd be surprised how many other women complain about guys doing just that in photos. I have no idea what you're complaining about here. I mainly look at 30-45 women, and they love pictures of men with dogs, and frequently say they'll swipe right just for a picture of a man with a dog. Sucks for me because I like cats and not dogs, but oh well. And women typically love dancing, so that's not going to repel them either. What they do complain about is shiftless selfies, selfies in the car, selfies in the bathroom, headless torsos, and pictures of the guy with a bunch of women.
- jrnichols 11y ago
  > No, that's what it was for, and still is for, for the 18-25 crowd. When the older crowd started using it, their interest was different. That's an assumption you're presenting as if it's a fact. > No, it was the 25+ and especially 30+ crowd flooding onto it that changed things. Again, an assumption. I'm not wrong in what I said. > I have no idea what you're complaining about here. I'm not complaining about anything. What I'm saying is that for every man or woman you see complaining about things in profile photos, there's another man or woman that loves it. I've seen plenty of female profiles on Tinder complaining about pics of guys with animals. That's one of the things about online dating, though - people are clearly having different experiences. Neither of us are wrong.
  - Grishnakh 11y ago
    No, anyone who generalizes Tinder across all age ranges is wrong. That's what I'm pointing out. I've never seen any woman complain about guys having pics of animals. But if you've seen that, and you're looking at women aged 18-25, then of course you're going to have a different experience than me, because I don't look at those women. And you're not going to see the same things as me if you're not looking at 35-40yo women. What 18-25yo women do or like is completely irrelevant to me, as what 35-40yo women do or like should be completely irrelevant to you.

ebrowndowntown 11y ago

I think you're making a lot of assumptions. Traditionally? Tinder hasn't been around that long. I think of Tinder as a marketplace, just like a singles bar--some people are there to hook up and some people are there for a long term relationship. I'll take the criticism on labeling females who are looking for long term relationships as "high quality." I'm not judging anyone's motives. But I will stand by the sentiment that people are sorting for matches that meet their goals, and many women have #relationshipgoals. The women who complain about guys doing things in their photos don't have to match with those guys. They can match with non-dancers, non-surfers.

Grishnakh 11y ago

>that's traditionally what it's been for. No, that's what it was for, and still is for, for the 18-25 crowd. When the older crowd started using it, their interest was different. >The "long term relationship" crowd has literally every other dating app out there, but so many of them flooded onto Tinder to "just give it a try" that it changed things. No, it was the 25+ and especially 30+ crowd flooding onto it that changed things. The reason they like it is because Tinder works better for both men and women. Men hate traditional dating sites because they spend all kinds of time looking through profiles, then writing messages, only to get no response. Women get overwhelmed on those sites by all the messages from men they have zero interest in. Tinder solves this problem by forcing both parties to respond affirmatively in order for communication to proceed. >you'd be surprised how many other women complain about guys doing just that in photos. I have no idea what you're complaining about here. I mainly look at 30-45 women, and they love pictures of men with dogs, and frequently say they'll swipe right just for a picture of a man with a dog. Sucks for me because I like cats and not dogs, but oh well. And women typically love dancing, so that's not going to repel them either. What they do complain about is shiftless selfies, selfies in the car, selfies in the bathroom, headless torsos, and pictures of the guy with a bunch of women.

jrnichols 11y ago
> No, that's what it was for, and still is for, for the 18-25 crowd. When the older crowd started using it, their interest was different. That's an assumption you're presenting as if it's a fact. > No, it was the 25+ and especially 30+ crowd flooding onto it that changed things. Again, an assumption. I'm not wrong in what I said. > I have no idea what you're complaining about here. I'm not complaining about anything. What I'm saying is that for every man or woman you see complaining about things in profile photos, there's another man or woman that loves it. I've seen plenty of female profiles on Tinder complaining about pics of guys with animals. That's one of the things about online dating, though - people are clearly having different experiences. Neither of us are wrong.
- Grishnakh 11y ago
  No, anyone who generalizes Tinder across all age ranges is wrong. That's what I'm pointing out. I've never seen any woman complain about guys having pics of animals. But if you've seen that, and you're looking at women aged 18-25, then of course you're going to have a different experience than me, because I don't look at those women. And you're not going to see the same things as me if you're not looking at 35-40yo women. What 18-25yo women do or like is completely irrelevant to me, as what 35-40yo women do or like should be completely irrelevant to you.