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I think David DeAngelo talks about people funny all the way. It's like the Ben Stiller's character in Tropic Thunder, "don't become a full joker". When you're

I think David DeAngelo talks about people funny all the way. It's like the Ben Stiller's character in Tropic Thunder, "don't become a full joker". When you're just funny, there is a general lowering of respect for such people. People wanna hang out with you, but they don't respect you as much. What you need to be is to add 'cockiness' to your personality. Again being just cocky is bad because then you just come out as a dick. The killer combination is to get the right amount of cockiness + humor.

Jtsummers 10y ago
> When you're just funny, there is a general lowering of respect for such people. People wanna hang out with you, but they don't respect you as much. I suspect this to be true. Not in the sense that, from my experience, people see a comedian (pro or not) as somehow "lesser", but that some people only seem to joke. It becomes tiresome. I have a colleague like this. Interaction with him is a series of music references or jokes and poor accent imitations. Carrying on a serious conversation, as has happened sometimes, is great until he starts cutting up again. One of the problems with being told "you're so ____" is that people often start trying to emphasize ____. You've already got that, now work on the rest of yourself. Autoflanderization should be avoided.
- gmarx 10y ago
  To be clear, I was never just funny. I didn't open up social interactions with wacky humor.
gmarx 10y ago
Fair enough, though when I was fat people always stated this as "you just need to be confident". What people fail to understand is that it's almost impossible to fake confidence and confidence in social situations is greatly influenced by how people react to you. When people (i.e. women) you've just met freeze the conversation with one word answers and other responses that lead nowhere, you can either monolog or abort. It's tough to just be cocky in isolation

Jtsummers 10y ago

> When you're just funny, there is a general lowering of respect for such people. People wanna hang out with you, but they don't respect you as much. I suspect this to be true. Not in the sense that, from my experience, people see a comedian (pro or not) as somehow "lesser", but that some people only seem to joke. It becomes tiresome. I have a colleague like this. Interaction with him is a series of music references or jokes and poor accent imitations. Carrying on a serious conversation, as has happened sometimes, is great until he starts cutting up again. One of the problems with being told "you're so ____" is that people often start trying to emphasize ____. You've already got that, now work on the rest of yourself. Autoflanderization should be avoided.

gmarx 10y ago
To be clear, I was never just funny. I didn't open up social interactions with wacky humor.

gmarx 10y ago

Fair enough, though when I was fat people always stated this as "you just need to be confident". What people fail to understand is that it's almost impossible to fake confidence and confidence in social situations is greatly influenced by how people react to you. When people (i.e. women) you've just met freeze the conversation with one word answers and other responses that lead nowhere, you can either monolog or abort. It's tough to just be cocky in isolation