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I recall reading a post on OKCupid's great blog where-in they were saying that women over-estimate their attractiveness relative to men at the same level.

• Declanomous 11y ago
  I hypothesized the same thing myself. I believe it is because men as a whole will sleep with women who are substantially less attractive than them in order to fulfill sexual desire, colloquially referred to as "bussin' down." I came up with this theory because a bafflingly large number of people have shared their opinions on this very matter as it relates to my relationships. In each relationship, a large number of my heterosexual female friends thought I was punching above my weight. Almost all my other friends thought I was at least as attractive, or more attractive, than my SO at the time. At the time, I thought one of two things: 1.) Men, including homosexual men, weight traits differently when it comes to attractiveness. 2.) My behavior towards women was unattractive in some way, e.g. sexist, overly macho, etc. Both of those things might still be true, but I reconsidered the main cause, because as time went on more and more women that were middle-aged or older would tell me that I was more attractive than my girlfriend. In any case, I'm personally of the opinion that outsiders' personal tastes shouldn't matter in a relationship. I've found each of my girlfriends very attractive, and they've found me attractive in turn. I don't believe there is a single positive reason that could motivate someone to tell someone else they are either more attractive or less attractive than their partner. Best-case scenario, they completely ignore your input. It strikes me as a way of enforcing normative behavior.