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This is such bullshit. Every time I hear an explanation of Tinder like this, it's from someone who isn't even using Tinder and only reads about it vicariously t

by swozey 11y ago

This is such bullshit. Every time I hear an explanation of Tinder like this, it's from someone who isn't even using Tinder and only reads about it vicariously through the people who brag about Tinder dating. The rest of us, men and women, use Tinder as an extra dating pool to add to Bumble, Hinge, OKCupid. They all have pros and cons. Hinge was great until they gave me 24 hours to respond to woman; sometimes I'm busy. Bumble requires the woman to message me first which is very nice as it takes that awkward "don't blow the first communication" line out of my hands. Yes, there are people who use Tinder for hookups. People use OKCupid for hookups. Match for hookups. That has not even remotely been the desire of the women I've met on Tinder.

infinite8s 11y ago
People also use bars, clubs, bookstores, meetup events, weddings, and vacations for hookups.
derptacious 11y ago
Yes, not only is this bullshit, but this article's premise is too. It takes A LOT of personal experience in the world to draw a true pattern about relationships. Even the opening sentence cries 'perceptual bias': "When was the last time you met a couple where one person was attractive and the other was not?" I see this all of the time, but how often do you think the author sees it too and consciously or unconsciously brushes it off as, "they must not actually be together." This article is like intellectual white-nighting, though not directly offering to save any girls - it's implying that the author knows better than the women whom are caving in to the wrong stimuli via "online dating." This is also a denial of sex statistics. If this new environment is keeping you ugly men from getting laid more today than you could yesterday, then who are all the ugly women banging? Otherwise, the author needs to claim that attractive men are actually getting laid more, while unattractive men are getting laid less or not at all. I don't see any evidence that less attractive men together have worse access to women in general than they had before. If anything, physical attractiveness of masculinity has decreased in some female's selection criteria over a long period of time due to the fact that a man's ability to physically defend himself and his family has become less necessary. Furthermore, studies have shown that the use of birth control causes women to be attracted to different (more feminine) men than they would otherwise - a side effect not often discussed or listed on the contraceptive package inserts.

by swozey 11y ago

infinite8s 11y ago

People also use bars, clubs, bookstores, meetup events, weddings, and vacations for hookups.

derptacious 11y ago

Yes, not only is this bullshit, but this article's premise is too. It takes A LOT of personal experience in the world to draw a true pattern about relationships. Even the opening sentence cries 'perceptual bias': "When was the last time you met a couple where one person was attractive and the other was not?" I see this all of the time, but how often do you think the author sees it too and consciously or unconsciously brushes it off as, "they must not actually be together." This article is like intellectual white-nighting, though not directly offering to save any girls - it's implying that the author knows better than the women whom are caving in to the wrong stimuli via "online dating." This is also a denial of sex statistics. If this new environment is keeping you ugly men from getting laid more today than you could yesterday, then who are all the ugly women banging? Otherwise, the author needs to claim that attractive men are actually getting laid more, while unattractive men are getting laid less or not at all. I don't see any evidence that less attractive men together have worse access to women in general than they had before. If anything, physical attractiveness of masculinity has decreased in some female's selection criteria over a long period of time due to the fact that a man's ability to physically defend himself and his family has become less necessary. Furthermore, studies have shown that the use of birth control causes women to be attracted to different (more feminine) men than they would otherwise - a side effect not often discussed or listed on the contraceptive package inserts.