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Online dating is the death of dating. Period. Dating apps and sites are making relationships disposable. People start treating relationships as this high which

by sakopov 11y ago

Online dating is the death of dating. Period. Dating apps and sites are making relationships disposable. People start treating relationships as this high which is only good while it's new and then they move on to the next great thing because it's always there and it's always waving you in. Nobody has an interesting courtship story. It's just a boring "Oh i thought she was hot and I messaged her" kind of thing. I only know 1 couple in their late 20s/early 30s where both partners are truly happy. Everybody else is just stuck in a perpetual mindfuck or is cheating their way to happiness. I you haven't read "Brave New World" I would highly recommend this book because it shows the society we're becoming.

willvarfar 11y ago
There has always been people seeking out casual relationships. And there has always been people seeking out long term relationships. These are often the same people, at different times. Modern technology hasn't changed human nature, its only enabled efficiencies for those living in large cities. I know many couples who found each other through online dating and are in it for the long run.
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danneu 11y ago
> It's just a boring "Oh i thought she was hot and I > messaged her" kind of thing. Just a stone's throw from "oh, I thought she was hot and I walked over to her" except that your scenario has the benefit of not being dependent on physically chancing across cute women as you romp through your daily life. You're not Hugh Grant in a romantic comedy, so all that matters is that you're getting the results you want and enjoying the ride. Online dating doesn't stop you from attending singles night at the roller rink, but it might give you more opportunities to find what you're looking for. That it's your Brave New World seems more indicative of personal self-limiting hangups about what courtship should be vs. what it actually is.
yolesaber 11y ago
Yeah because no one is in satisfying real relationships anymore... Maybe you just need to expand your social circle. Sounds like you just have a sad sack group of friends.

by sakopov 11y ago

willvarfar 11y ago

There has always been people seeking out casual relationships. And there has always been people seeking out long term relationships. These are often the same people, at different times. Modern technology hasn't changed human nature, its only enabled efficiencies for those living in large cities. I know many couples who found each other through online dating and are in it for the long run.

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danneu 11y ago

> It's just a boring "Oh i thought she was hot and I > messaged her" kind of thing. Just a stone's throw from "oh, I thought she was hot and I walked over to her" except that your scenario has the benefit of not being dependent on physically chancing across cute women as you romp through your daily life. You're not Hugh Grant in a romantic comedy, so all that matters is that you're getting the results you want and enjoying the ride. Online dating doesn't stop you from attending singles night at the roller rink, but it might give you more opportunities to find what you're looking for. That it's your Brave New World seems more indicative of personal self-limiting hangups about what courtship should be vs. what it actually is.

yolesaber 11y ago

Yeah because no one is in satisfying real relationships anymore... Maybe you just need to expand your social circle. Sounds like you just have a sad sack group of friends.