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I've long thought that in being able to instantly compare someone visually to countless alternatives, online dating makes people overly picky. As such, I've alw

by prawn 11y ago

I've long thought that in being able to instantly compare someone visually to countless alternatives, online dating makes people overly picky. As such, I've always wanted to build a dating site/app that rate-limited the number of people shown so viewers would be encouraged to read profiles and consider things a bit more. Dating crossed with Deal of the Day.

Tenoke 11y ago
Like https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/ https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/ ?
- colmvp 11y ago
  I'll just say that CFB isn't more or less better than other online dating sites in the regard of being 'picky.' I've used it for the last four months and have gotten a grand total of... drumroll please one date. And trust me, I've been really kind to like many women of various interests and ethnicities. I've also been thoughtful in my messaging to women.
- prawn 11y ago
  Yes, that has the general idea!
- rsmsky1 11y ago
  It hasn't worked for me. They keep showing me guys outside my preferences, so I stopped using it.
massysett 11y ago
I think that's what eharmony does.
noir_lord 11y ago
I met someone online who had an absolutely fascinating (to me) profile she listed a bunch of authors I liked, my opening message was a question of which protagonist she preferred from the two sets of books and she was also also into a lot of the same stuff as me (politics and history) but didn't have a profile picture. We had long conversations and I had no idea what she looked like for the first month or so, she commented that I hadn't asked for a picture which men normally do straight away, my response was "I enjoy talking to you". She eventually sent a picture when we arrange to go on a date last week, turns out she is absolutely stunning (not I find her attractive, I mean objectively stunning) and the reason she took her picture off was all the "Hey baby, want sum fuk?" messages she was getting. Date went well and we are going out again soon, I'm not handsome, I'm pretty average looking except for been in decent physical shape (swimming, cycling and dropping 60lbs will do that), frankly if I'd known what she looks like first I probably wouldn't have sent her a message in the first place figuring I didn't have a chance. The world is a strange place sometimes.
- jensen123 11y ago
  I've seen several dating sites that give you the option to only show profiles with a picture. However, I've never seen a dating site that gives you the option of only showing profiles that contain more than say 2 sentences. I think that would have been far more useful.
  - noir_lord 11y ago
    Absolutely, I actually don't send messages to anyone who hasn't filled in their profile, a nice looking picture tells me nothing about them as a person.
    - Unklejoe 11y ago
      A nice looking picture with no profile text tells me a lot. It tells me that the profile is either fake or that the person is only there to boost their own ego by receiving messages. Either way, it tells me that there's no point of sending them a message!
  - greggman 11y ago
    There's a good episode from the Start Up podcast about a company that tried to not have pictures. I'm pretty sure it was this episode https://gimletmedia.com/episode/profiled-season-2-6/ https://gimletmedia.com/episode/profiled-season-2-6/
personlurking 11y ago
I've always thought there's a need for a Tinder with an OKC match % running in the background. If someone is similar enough, they're suggested to you, with a few of your physical preferences taken into account. The interface, though, is Tinder-like. Or, in the least, Tinder could just create a basic setting for only showing "def not looking for a hook-up" profiles.
- cauterized 11y ago
  OKC actually has a Tinder-like yes/no swipe feature last I looked. At least on their mobile app.

by prawn 11y ago

Tenoke 11y ago

Like https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/ https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/ ?

colmvp 11y ago
I'll just say that CFB isn't more or less better than other online dating sites in the regard of being 'picky.' I've used it for the last four months and have gotten a grand total of... drumroll please one date. And trust me, I've been really kind to like many women of various interests and ethnicities. I've also been thoughtful in my messaging to women.
prawn 11y ago
Yes, that has the general idea!
rsmsky1 11y ago
It hasn't worked for me. They keep showing me guys outside my preferences, so I stopped using it.

massysett 11y ago

I think that's what eharmony does.

noir_lord 11y ago

I met someone online who had an absolutely fascinating (to me) profile she listed a bunch of authors I liked, my opening message was a question of which protagonist she preferred from the two sets of books and she was also also into a lot of the same stuff as me (politics and history) but didn't have a profile picture. We had long conversations and I had no idea what she looked like for the first month or so, she commented that I hadn't asked for a picture which men normally do straight away, my response was "I enjoy talking to you". She eventually sent a picture when we arrange to go on a date last week, turns out she is absolutely stunning (not I find her attractive, I mean objectively stunning) and the reason she took her picture off was all the "Hey baby, want sum fuk?" messages she was getting. Date went well and we are going out again soon, I'm not handsome, I'm pretty average looking except for been in decent physical shape (swimming, cycling and dropping 60lbs will do that), frankly if I'd known what she looks like first I probably wouldn't have sent her a message in the first place figuring I didn't have a chance. The world is a strange place sometimes.

jensen123 11y ago
I've seen several dating sites that give you the option to only show profiles with a picture. However, I've never seen a dating site that gives you the option of only showing profiles that contain more than say 2 sentences. I think that would have been far more useful.
- noir_lord 11y ago
  Absolutely, I actually don't send messages to anyone who hasn't filled in their profile, a nice looking picture tells me nothing about them as a person.
  - Unklejoe 11y ago
    A nice looking picture with no profile text tells me a lot. It tells me that the profile is either fake or that the person is only there to boost their own ego by receiving messages. Either way, it tells me that there's no point of sending them a message!
- greggman 11y ago
  There's a good episode from the Start Up podcast about a company that tried to not have pictures. I'm pretty sure it was this episode https://gimletmedia.com/episode/profiled-season-2-6/ https://gimletmedia.com/episode/profiled-season-2-6/

personlurking 11y ago

I've always thought there's a need for a Tinder with an OKC match % running in the background. If someone is similar enough, they're suggested to you, with a few of your physical preferences taken into account. The interface, though, is Tinder-like. Or, in the least, Tinder could just create a basic setting for only showing "def not looking for a hook-up" profiles.

cauterized 11y ago
OKC actually has a Tinder-like yes/no swipe feature last I looked. At least on their mobile app.