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I'm assuming that you mean some ugly people end up in happy relationships while some attractive people end up unhappily single in their 40s. Clearly this is not

by blowski 11y ago

I'm assuming that you mean some ugly people end up in happy relationships while some attractive people end up unhappily single in their 40s. Clearly this is not true of all people in either group, and the proportions could be broadly similar or quite different - I have no data at all.

golergka 11y ago
I wasn't talking about ugly people — I was talking about "ugly" (in quotes) people with good personalities. And almost all of those people after 30 that I know have great, stable relationships, often with more attractive people.
- sokoloff 11y ago
  I suspect two issues. There's some observational bias at play. You notice the cases where the guy (usually) has "outkicked his coverage" and you may notice the very attractive singles and wonder about it. You don't notice the plain singles or the perfectly matched couples, but you notice the woman in the red dress from the Matrix. Second, some people make a conscious decision to have a stable relationship. I'm not saying it's 100% choice, but it's well over half IMO. I sought [and found] a partner who came from a stable family, who was educated and valued education, who wanted kids, and who wanted a stable relationship. Did that contribute to me being one of "those people"? Probably.
- forgetsusername 11y ago
  >often with more attractive people Since there are two sides to the transaction, the number of people marrying more attractive people is exactly equal to the number marrying less attractive people.
  - golergka 11y ago
    Once again, I was comparing two groups: ugly w good personality vs beautiful vs difficult personality. I didn't cover ugly w difficul personality and beautiful w good personality, hence the disparity.
nailer 11y ago
I'd pay more attention to the 'party animal' bit than the 'attractive' bit: statistically people with more sexual partners have less stable relationships.
- empath75 11y ago
  That seems fairly tautological.
- bobwaycott 11y ago
  Where are the statistics for this? Genuinely curious. I might have skimmed over that in the article.
  - nailer 11y ago
    http://nationalmarriageproject.org/wordpress/reports/ http://nationalmarriageproject.org/wordpress/reports/ HuffPo, so take with a grain of salt, but still a reasonable summary: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440.html http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partner...

by blowski 11y ago

golergka 11y ago

I wasn't talking about ugly people — I was talking about "ugly" (in quotes) people with good personalities. And almost all of those people after 30 that I know have great, stable relationships, often with more attractive people.

sokoloff 11y ago
I suspect two issues. There's some observational bias at play. You notice the cases where the guy (usually) has "outkicked his coverage" and you may notice the very attractive singles and wonder about it. You don't notice the plain singles or the perfectly matched couples, but you notice the woman in the red dress from the Matrix. Second, some people make a conscious decision to have a stable relationship. I'm not saying it's 100% choice, but it's well over half IMO. I sought [and found] a partner who came from a stable family, who was educated and valued education, who wanted kids, and who wanted a stable relationship. Did that contribute to me being one of "those people"? Probably.
forgetsusername 11y ago
>often with more attractive people Since there are two sides to the transaction, the number of people marrying more attractive people is exactly equal to the number marrying less attractive people.
- golergka 11y ago
  Once again, I was comparing two groups: ugly w good personality vs beautiful vs difficult personality. I didn't cover ugly w difficul personality and beautiful w good personality, hence the disparity.

nailer 11y ago

I'd pay more attention to the 'party animal' bit than the 'attractive' bit: statistically people with more sexual partners have less stable relationships.

empath75 11y ago
That seems fairly tautological.
bobwaycott 11y ago
Where are the statistics for this? Genuinely curious. I might have skimmed over that in the article.
- nailer 11y ago
  http://nationalmarriageproject.org/wordpress/reports/ http://nationalmarriageproject.org/wordpress/reports/ HuffPo, so take with a grain of salt, but still a reasonable summary: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440.html http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partner...