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I'm pretty sure this applies to other countries as well. Women are drawn to powerful men, because power translates to stability and security for the family.

FilterSweep 11y ago
this is where the myth of "outkicking coverage" comes into play.
draugadrotten 11y ago
''Our generation of women is constantly told to have high self-esteem, but it seems that the women themselves are at risk of ego-tripping themselves out of romantic connection,'' ...''They are with an '8' but they want a '10'. But then suddenly they're 40 and can only get a '5'!'' http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dati...
- nailer 11y ago
  Women's value is primarily measures by beauty, men by power - we might dislike this, but that doesn't change it. These peak at different times for each gender.
adrianmsmith 11y ago
I'm sure you're right that that's what women instinctively look for, but, in terms of stability, I wonder if in reality the reverse is true. Powerful men have more women who find them attractive than less powerful men (for the reasons you stated). So they have more opportunities for affairs, as more women are into them. To stay faithful, the powerful man has to say "no" more often than the less powerful man, and men aren't traditionally that good at saying "no". So I think if a woman wants a stable relationship, the right strategy is to choose men who not many other women are drawn to (as opposed to trusting their man will say "no" consistently). If most other women are drawn to powerful men, the woman who wants a stable relationship should choose the less powerful man.
- neverminder 11y ago
  Well, this may sound like a cliche, but I think that more often than not what women want and what they need are two different things.
  - cauterized 11y ago
    You think that applies more to women than to men?
    - neverminder 11y ago
      When I said "cliche" I meant the good old "women say one thing, do another and think something else".

FilterSweep 11y ago

this is where the myth of "outkicking coverage" comes into play.

draugadrotten 11y ago

''Our generation of women is constantly told to have high self-esteem, but it seems that the women themselves are at risk of ego-tripping themselves out of romantic connection,'' ...''They are with an '8' but they want a '10'. But then suddenly they're 40 and can only get a '5'!'' http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dati...

nailer 11y ago
Women's value is primarily measures by beauty, men by power - we might dislike this, but that doesn't change it. These peak at different times for each gender.

adrianmsmith 11y ago

I'm sure you're right that that's what women instinctively look for, but, in terms of stability, I wonder if in reality the reverse is true. Powerful men have more women who find them attractive than less powerful men (for the reasons you stated). So they have more opportunities for affairs, as more women are into them. To stay faithful, the powerful man has to say "no" more often than the less powerful man, and men aren't traditionally that good at saying "no". So I think if a woman wants a stable relationship, the right strategy is to choose men who not many other women are drawn to (as opposed to trusting their man will say "no" consistently). If most other women are drawn to powerful men, the woman who wants a stable relationship should choose the less powerful man.

neverminder 11y ago
Well, this may sound like a cliche, but I think that more often than not what women want and what they need are two different things.
- cauterized 11y ago
  You think that applies more to women than to men?
  - neverminder 11y ago
    When I said "cliche" I meant the good old "women say one thing, do another and think something else".