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Wow, this article is really written from a shockingly myopic male point of view. What men find attractive in women is primarily looks, but what women look for

Wow, this article is really written from a shockingly myopic male point of view. What men find attractive in women is primarily looks, but what women look for in men is a lot more holistic. You can't have a discussion of mixed-attractiveness couples without figuring out what women are attracted to, and it's not primarily visual.

the_mitsuhiko 11y ago
> but what women look for in men is a lot more holistic. Citation needed. Pretty sure physical attractiveness is something both genders can judge pretty well and clearly it plays a role in relationships also because it is something you can influence to a degree which also implies a certain type of behavior.
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enraged_camel 11y ago
>>What men find attractive in women is primarily looks, but what women look for in men is a lot more holistic. Pay attention to the looks on your female friends' faces next time they notice a muscular guy with a six pack jogging down the street and you'll quickly let go of this belief.
- FilterSweep 11y ago
  I believe there's some truth into both comments. Let me ask you - would you notice any difference in their faces if muscular guy jogging is 5'8" or 6'2"? I sure would.
ocdtrekkie 11y ago
Going to agree with the_mutsuhiko and ask for a citation there. A woman who isn't as intelligent as she is physically attractive isn't all that interesting. And to be honest, after dealing with an ex-girlfriend of mine, I'd love to avoid people with self-image problems, drug problems, and staggering amounts of debt.
venomsnake 11y ago
From my observations women are attracted to power. The kind of power a specific woman is attracted to varies - the spectrum is very broad - it may be creative, physical, mental, financial or just incredibly skilled at something said woman is interested in. Or to exceptional beings in a good way.
StreamBright 11y ago
HN is probably the first online forum for highly opinionated views. Without able to back up this view you are getting downvoted. Checking goolge for hints: https://www.google.com/search?q=women%20first%20thing%20notice&rct=j https://www.google.com/search?q=women%20first%20thing%20noti... It appears that most of the things listed on the first 10 pages of google hits are related to physical look (height, tooth, hands, etc.) and some is related to financial background and taste (clothing for example). I am not sure what does holistic mean in this context though. In my experience women attracted to physical look and self confidence the most, yet I know that sample is not representative. It would be nice if you could back up your comment with data.
kovacicm 11y ago
http://www.bloomberg.com/graphics/2016-who-marries-whom/ http://www.bloomberg.com/graphics/2016-who-marries-whom/ High-earning women (doctors, lawyers) tend to pair up with their economic equals, while middle- and lower-tier women often marry up. In other words, female CEOs tend to marry other CEOs; male CEOs are OK marrying their secretaries.

the_mitsuhiko 11y ago

> but what women look for in men is a lot more holistic. Citation needed. Pretty sure physical attractiveness is something both genders can judge pretty well and clearly it plays a role in relationships also because it is something you can influence to a degree which also implies a certain type of behavior.

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enraged_camel 11y ago

>>What men find attractive in women is primarily looks, but what women look for in men is a lot more holistic. Pay attention to the looks on your female friends' faces next time they notice a muscular guy with a six pack jogging down the street and you'll quickly let go of this belief.

FilterSweep 11y ago
I believe there's some truth into both comments. Let me ask you - would you notice any difference in their faces if muscular guy jogging is 5'8" or 6'2"? I sure would.

ocdtrekkie 11y ago

Going to agree with the_mutsuhiko and ask for a citation there. A woman who isn't as intelligent as she is physically attractive isn't all that interesting. And to be honest, after dealing with an ex-girlfriend of mine, I'd love to avoid people with self-image problems, drug problems, and staggering amounts of debt.

venomsnake 11y ago

From my observations women are attracted to power. The kind of power a specific woman is attracted to varies - the spectrum is very broad - it may be creative, physical, mental, financial or just incredibly skilled at something said woman is interested in. Or to exceptional beings in a good way.

StreamBright 11y ago

HN is probably the first online forum for highly opinionated views. Without able to back up this view you are getting downvoted. Checking goolge for hints: https://www.google.com/search?q=women%20first%20thing%20notice&rct=j https://www.google.com/search?q=women%20first%20thing%20noti... It appears that most of the things listed on the first 10 pages of google hits are related to physical look (height, tooth, hands, etc.) and some is related to financial background and taste (clothing for example). I am not sure what does holistic mean in this context though. In my experience women attracted to physical look and self confidence the most, yet I know that sample is not representative. It would be nice if you could back up your comment with data.

kovacicm 11y ago

http://www.bloomberg.com/graphics/2016-who-marries-whom/ http://www.bloomberg.com/graphics/2016-who-marries-whom/ High-earning women (doctors, lawyers) tend to pair up with their economic equals, while middle- and lower-tier women often marry up. In other words, female CEOs tend to marry other CEOs; male CEOs are OK marrying their secretaries.