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Women like funny men. That's been my experience. Funny is attractive. Self confidence plays a big role too, which goes with funny. Not "jerk self confidence",

• rectify 11y ago
  If by funny you mean attractive face.
  • cheriot 11y ago
    That's the thing about real life interaction. She's now making a decision with more information than your photo and there's no lineup of photos next to you. The articles point is that the longer you know someone, the less their attractiveness matters. I suspect that slope starts rather quickly.
  • beachstartup 11y ago
    the vast majority of ugly people are only 'ugly' because they're too fat or too skinny. it's amazing how good looking your face becomes when you're in shape and have a decent amount of muscle mass with definition.
    • neverminder 11y ago
      Not really. Attractiveness of face is all about symmetry and proportion. For example: If you have a huge nose or a massive protruding mole you'll never be attractive no matter your body composition. I'm sure an algorithm could be (already is) composed to verify attractiveness of face.
      • the_mitsuhiko 11y ago
        Since when is symmetry relevant? I thought it has been sufficiently shown that symmetry plays no role for beauty. Pretty sure fitness has a bigger impact on beauty than features you cannot change without surgery.
        • iansane 11y ago
          I remember in biology we learned that symmetry is an indicator of good genetics, so it makes sense that we are biased to symmetry since higher fitness/survivability.
        • dragandj 11y ago
          Not only symmetry, but also the proportions. People are evolutionary wired to use symmetry and proportions of faces and bodies to estimate health and survival/reproduction "value". This is not the only factor, of course, but a huge one.
      • nailer 11y ago
        > If you have a huge nose you'll never be attractive Many male models have huge or badly broken noses (see Stone Island campaigns for the latter). They're still considered handsome. I guy who lived on my street has an extraordinary long face, and he's a now D&G model. Exercising and having good skin puts you in front of 90% of men. I'd agree algorithm might say smaller noses are, on the whole, more handsome, but you can still be considered handsome having a huge nose.
      • knackernews 11y ago
        > If you have a huge nose or a massive protruding mole you'll never be attractive no matter your body composition BULLSHIT. I was very self conscious of my big nose but Asian women love it! The first time I heard 'I like your nose! it's so nice' I couldn't believe it. I had to turn off notifications for Tinder because it's so active after 11:00PM.
      • T-A 11y ago
        I am reminded of this recently posted article: http://nautil.us/issue/33/attraction/am-i-ugly http://nautil.us/issue/33/attraction/am-i-ugly
  • nailer 11y ago
    No, genuinely funny. Thinks on their feet, actually holds frame. People who are bad at dating hear the same line delivered by someone attractive and unattractive and think the difference is their face: in reality, the attractive person is comfortable, playful and not concerned with one interaction not working out. The unattractive person is uncomfortable, is concerned about whether a single stranger finds them attractive or not. My gym has plenty of men with amazing physiques who are absolutely awful with women. It also has a pudgy guy who's amazing.
    • olemartinorg 11y ago
      Huh, your comment made me realize a new aspect of why I utterly failed at Tinder when I tried it, and have much better luck in real life. I guess I'm far more confident and funny than attractive! Makes sense.
    • mcphage 11y ago
      > actually holds frame What does this mean?
      • VLM 11y ago
        Its a fair question. Something like disciplined stage presence. Its kind of TRP dog whistle-ish, which is neither good nor bad. Can you perform your joke or pickup line or whatever in an appealing manner with confidence and consistently without giggling or overreacting to your audience facial expression or generally looking anxious. If you abstract out all the sex and the psychological rationalization behind it, its something like the audience would not find you flaky if you were presenting at a professional meeting. The presenter might be wrong or the audience might be completely uninterested, but they would describe it as presented well, by most common standards of presenting well. There's generally a side dish of smooth recovery from minor bumps in the road, which some people would consider a self evident part of the definition of "presenting well". Originally, way back, the concept comes from the mix of the mental side of disciplined holding your frame of mind and the physical side of maintaining a strong frame when ballroom dancing or lifting.
    • rectify 11y ago
  • neverminder 11y ago
    Exactly this. I can't find sources now, but women prioritize attractive face over body. If I had to speculate on a current trend I'd say skinny guys with feminine faces make the most attractive combination for women.
• losty 11y ago
  The problem is that funniness is correlative. Not causative. People laugh together to show group bonding. Naturally you are more likely to laugh at the jokes of somebody you want to be close to.
  • artursapek 11y ago
    Funniness is certainly correlative, but it's because it comes with confidence. And confidence is really what's attractive. It's not because people fake laughter.
  • npunt 11y ago
    Just because funniness is correlative doesn't mean its not causal. Sometimes jokes can open someone up to another, and keep them interested. Just like any other social interaction.
  • kirykl 11y ago
    Why wouldn't humor cause you to want to be close to someone? Also people laugh become something is funny. Maybe the mechanism of laughter signals trust or shared understanding that facilitates group bond, which means it causitive
• gmarx 11y ago
  This being the internet you may believe or ignore the following: I am a funny guy. I have been told multiple times by different people that I am the funniest person they have ever met. I have been told several times by different people in different contexts that I should be a stand-up comedian. All these were spontaneous and not said by anyone who wanted or needed anything from me. I also used to be morbidly obese. Now I am in good shape. The idea that funny is attractive in isolation (in the same way that a pretty face is on a woman) is, based on my experience, entirely, hilariously untrue. Just one man's life :)
  • splintercell 11y ago
    I think David DeAngelo talks about people funny all the way. It's like the Ben Stiller's character in Tropic Thunder, "don't become a full joker". When you're just funny, there is a general lowering of respect for such people. People wanna hang out with you, but they don't respect you as much. What you need to be is to add 'cockiness' to your personality. Again being just cocky is bad because then you just come out as a dick. The killer combination is to get the right amount of cockiness + humor.
    • Jtsummers 11y ago
      > When you're just funny, there is a general lowering of respect for such people. People wanna hang out with you, but they don't respect you as much. I suspect this to be true. Not in the sense that, from my experience, people see a comedian (pro or not) as somehow "lesser", but that some people only seem to joke. It becomes tiresome. I have a colleague like this. Interaction with him is a series of music references or jokes and poor accent imitations. Carrying on a serious conversation, as has happened sometimes, is great until he starts cutting up again. One of the problems with being told "you're so ____" is that people often start trying to emphasize ____. You've already got that, now work on the rest of yourself. Autoflanderization should be avoided.
      • gmarx 11y ago
        To be clear, I was never just funny. I didn't open up social interactions with wacky humor.