Leading "with authority" is an oxymoron. There's the authority inherent in your position (which applies in a business or a bureaucracy, not a marriage) and the

Leading "with authority" is an oxymoron. There's the authority inherent in your position (which applies in a business or a bureaucracy, not a marriage) and there's authority (respect, actually) that you earn through leadership. If you mean just "puttin' a little bass in your voice"(+) then good luck and don't forget to wear a cup! (+) Chris Rock recommends this as a way to get a woman to lick your balls, if you're interested in taking relationship advice from Chris Rock's stand-up act.