> IOW, I pause a beat to collect my thoughts. People tend to think this too is a sign of "stupid". A lot of tribes in the US have members that exhibit this sam

> IOW, I pause a beat to collect my thoughts. People tend to think this too is a sign of "stupid". A lot of tribes in the US have members that exhibit this same behavior. A respectful pause to consider a response and a slow cadence should be a sign they have considered their words, but instead is portrayed as stupid. It made going to DC and dealing with bureaucrats in the 90's a pain in the butt.