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As an almost 30 year old male who is very anxious about the prospect of having to have children in the next <5 years due to my girlfriend's biological clock, I

by cik2e 11y ago

As an almost 30 year old male who is very anxious about the prospect of having to have children in the next <5 years due to my girlfriend's biological clock, I find this very reassuring. Looking back on it, my childhood was similar to what you describe and I gained a huge amount of independence from it. Granted, as a single child, it seems that being left to my own devices so often while growing up may have added to my introverted tendencies. However, having some siblings around should help my future little introverts find balance.

danieldk 11y ago
As an almost 30 year old male who is very anxious about the prospect of having to have children in the next <5 years due to my girlfriend's biological clock, I find this very reassuring. I don't think your parent's post is necessarily representative. It depends a lot on the child and the circumstances. E.g., we live relatively far away from family, so we cannot just bring our daughter to her grandparents for a sleepover. Our life has definitely changed and where there used to be a lot of time to hack and tinker, it's far less now. Our daughter falls asleep easily and sleeps until 8 or 9 in the weekends, so we are still pretty lucky :). The important thing is that you also get a lot back. Having a child is a lot of fun. They are cute and do funny things. And you can do nice things together, like going to a playground or hiking a bit. I also think having a child put more balance in our lives. Work is really 8:00-17:00 (you have to pick them up ;)), but you also become more focused and efficient.